How to Build Confidence in Dating (For Men)

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If the fear of rejection or the likely chance of any date going wrong weren’t enough, there’s the problem of how to build confidence in dating. Trying to meet a woman in the real world or meet people online is challenging.

We have to admit that dating isn’t the easiest game you could play.

Believing in yourself is something you need to be successful in dating.

Some men fail miserably when it comes to execution others can’t even muster enough confidence to give online dating a shot.

With that said, here are some tips on how to build confidence in dating effortlessly.

How to Build Confidence in Dating Tip #1: Your Outside Matters

Even though it’s usually expected that a girl puts her best face forward for a date, there’s nothing wrong with a guy trying to look his best to give himself a confidence boost.

Reality Land: Our exterior is the very first thing that attracts or repels others.

If your appearance lacks style, neatness or any general sense of what “matching clothes” means, you’re not likely to get girls interested in you. This, in turn, negatively impacts your confidence.

Instead, don’t be afraid to wear whatever makes you look and feel as handsome as possible, without overdoing it, of course.

If you’ve got a piece of clothing that you’ve recently bought, take it out for a spin. If you have a pair of shoes that you love but haven’t worn in a while, dust them off and add them to your stylish combination.

Wearing what makes you feel sexy can make your confidence skyrocket, whether or not you want to admit that your looks matter to you.

Also, let’s not forget that our smell is also part of our exterior! That sensual, intense and pleasant fragrance you like will appeal to the ladies, and will make you feel better about yourself.

Hint: Go easy on the cologne! Some ladies are sniff sensitive.

How to Build Confidence in Dating Tip #2: Your Inside Matters More

You’re done taking care of your appearance! Now it’s time to make sure you’ve got the right attitude for a guaranteed dating confidence boost.

The first and foremost thing you need to do before a date is to calm your mind.

Letting your thoughts fall into place allows you to see your intentions more clearly. Doing this also allows you to overcome fears. Instead, fill your head with happy thoughts not negative questions like, “What if she doesn’t like me?” or “What if I say something stupid?”

It’s negative thinking that makes most guys lose their confidence.

Obsessing about bad outcomes of a date can seriously impact your dating game. Overthinking won’t let you relax and be yourself. And since being yourself is directly connected to believing in yourself, it’s easy to see why negative thinking is a big confidence in dating

Finally, the most radical thing you can do in order to get a confidence boost is to be in control of a date.

Plan everything out and make sure to put a surprise somewhere in the date. Your date will be impressed and you’ll have a power trip that’s good for how to build confidence in dating.

Also, Anna’s WakeUP2Luv: Get a Girlfriend Program provides the steps to do all this and get you to your first date a lot faster. Check it out!


Note from me (Anna)! New video coming soon, The 10 Step Confidence Formula, on my WingmamTV YouTube Channel. Subscribe to WingmamTV here to be alerted when it’s posted!

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About the Author Anna Jorgensen

Vancouver Dating Coach for Shy Guys & Introverted Men. Matchmaker Liaison. Founder: Wingmam

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