Ohhhh, I know all about this topic! My last boyfriend was a bad boy. He even named his company with the common phrase “Bad boys finish first!” If you want to know why women like bad boys, let me share my wisdom—earned from a woeful tale—with you …
I’d read this Bad Boy’s best-selling book, The Manual, and fell in love with his easy-going and humorous “writer’s voice.” OK, I admit that I swooned over his devilish good looks, too, and put his handsome face
on my screensaver—be careful what you wish to manifest, ladies!
Three years later, I moved to L.A. and straight into a live-in relationship with him.
You’re curious about the deets of how I made that happen—well, you can find out all in the how-to-get-(almost)-any-guy-you-want in my WakeUP2Luv Course—but that part doesn’t matter for the purpose of this blog. This blog is about …
The quick and dirty of why we love bad boys is simply because bad boys tend to offer all the qualities our un-evolved primate brain—the amygdala—recognizes as “safe,” even though our logical brain—the neocortex—totally shakes its finger at us!
Bad Boys are—
— uber, super duper self-assured
— mysterious, independent wolves
— constantly assessing and assertive
— masters of seduction
Let’s take a quick and dirty look at these bad boy traits…
We crave bad-boy traits because we’re biologically wired to be attracted to the positive qualities that bad boys display. But if we want a happy-happy joy-filled relationship, we’ve got to choose a mate with a balance of bad-boy but good-man traits.
Read The Manual by Steve Santagati. There’s some stuff in there that’ll make you cringe, but it’s also half of what I used to get that bad boy … The other half was my own concoction, which you’ll find in WakeUP2Luv! (Just sayin’!)
And by the way, Steve maintains that a bad boy is a good man, but a player is simply a misogynistic asshole. I couldn’t agree more!
p.s. We’re still friends, and he’s still annoyingly gorgeous!
Vancouver Matchmaker and Dating, Love and Relationship Expert