Dear Self, I love you, but please stop self-sabogating my (love) life. I think it’s time we—me and me—had a little chitchat …
We’re trying to lose weight, get fit and lose five pounds, but then we go to the closest greasy burger joint and eat a mound of meaty burger at 9pm. Self, WTF!?
We want to expand our social circle—geez, even just have one—and join a Meetup Group but then neverrr go to any of the events. Seriously?
We want to find a loving cuddle buddy for life and sign up on a dating site but get frustrated in 10 minutes and cancel our profile. Ok, Hun, something’s gotta give …
Does this feel familiar?
You’re not alone. We all self-sabotage. That burger one? Yeah, that was me a few days ago. Anna J, WTF, girl!?
Our ego / subconscious mind / primate brain / Inner Evil Twin likes what is familiar. Familiar feels safe even if…
But there’s hope! Awareness is the key.
When we’re aware of what we’re doing, we can ask our Inner Angel Twin—there’s only two of us, really, the good-for-us us and the bad-for-us us—to come out and tackle the Inner Evil Twin.
Seriously. If this sounds silly, that’s your Inner Evil Twin hijacking your path to happiness, girl friend!
Be willing to try something new. Be willing to suspend disbelief long enough to try something new. Because, as I’ve annoyingly said over and over again, nothing changes if nothing changes.
Self-Sabotage is actually our subconscious trying to keep us safe, even if that “safe thing” isn’t actually good for us. Familiar feels safe.
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