When I was a ball-busting business woman with a finger-snapping habit, I didn’t get hit on a lot. No surprise there! I was intimidating AF. What man in his right mind would want to be with an impatient #BossBitch?
Truth was that I was married at the time, but the poor guy married me before I hit high success and low-patience levels. He kind of learned to roll with the verbal punches, which included a lot of “sum up, please” verbage.
I admit, I may have looked hot in heels and a pencil skirt, but my attitude was ugly AF, ladies.
Men respect a woman who’s got her shit together at work, no doubt, but men need respect from their Boss Babe partners for them to feel equal. (Feminism is about equality, no?)
What’s really sexy is a woman who can own it in the corporate world and still come home and make a man feel like a man. That ain’t degrading! That’s holding a fuck ton of power.
Giving a man what he needs to feel like a man is a gift he appreciates.
Men will try to live up to our standards and expectations IF there’s a chance they’ll win our respect and approval. That means there has to be a standard of giving him respect and approval.
No, they should not NOT need that from us. Guys have built-in needs, just like women. Women’s emotional centre in the brain is eight times bigger than a man’s, so we tend to need to use more words than a man (on average 20,000 words vs 7,000 words). And that’s OK.
By the way, that emotional centre and the associated “relationship genius” that women are naturally born with are part of what makes us amazing in any area of business that is relationship-oriented. Like, um, all the most important areas, duh.
When men get kudos for the little things, they’ll try harder to please us and work on some of the bigger things we keep nagging them about, in their own time, but still … it ain’t the boardroom! Patience, ladies, we gotta practice patience.
Instead of making of fun of guys for acting like little boys, why not embrace it. Praise the good behaviour and they’ll do more good stuff to try to win approval.
“But they should act like an adult.”
They do! They’re just wired differently than women are. We can fight it or embrace it and have a win-win world in work and in love. To me, that’s a smart deal.
Men will not take advantage of a woman who gives him an inch—though, I like to joke that he will want to give her back what he thinks is 7”. 😉
If a woman has set some standards and established boundaries, she’s already got her man strategy established. Men don’t take advantage of women with standards and boundaries, because those expectations are set in the beginning and he has accepted that contract.
What I mean is that if we set our standards and boundaries early on, the guys who really are assholes will ditch early and not stick around.
If a guy sticks around knowing what our standards and boundaries are—and respects those standards and boundaries—then we got nothing to worry about. Forget ‘bout it.
Women feel sexier when we reclaim our feminine nature. It’s also a smart #BossMove because we can add a team member at no additional cost. 😉
What’s the toughest part of being feminine for you? Let me know in the comments!
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