Project 50 First Dates—First Date #5: Smoke Signals

Is Smoking a Dealbreaker?

Dating site:
Age: 50s
Kids: don’t think so.
Work: management

In all fairness, it was my fault.

I didn’t read his profile.

Or maybe I did, and I can’t remember because they―dating site profiles―start blurring together after a while. Hey, don’t judge―this is honesty. Anyone on a dating site long enough will agree.

I’ll save you a lengthy lead up and simply cut to it: Not a right match—he doesn’t meet my Top 5.

He wore eau de cigarette smoke―usually a sign of a cigarette smoker―which is a definite no way for me. (This is why even The Gerry wouldn’t make the cut for me in real life. For real.) 

Also, Smoke Signals likes to go on extended road trips to places remote and unknown―like Alaska. I like to go on short walking jaunts in high heels to high-priced espresso shops, like anywhere with sirens in the background. Okay, fine, I like road trips, too, but I need balance and Smoke Signals kinda loathes anything “vanity.” (Apparently, fashion shows aren’t “nature enough.” *Meh, shrug*)

By the way, I knew better about making this date, he refused to talk on the phone before meeting me, but I felt desperate to get my date on because I’m behind in my 50 dates social study. My bad. Apologies all around. (Though, I would’ve asked had we chatted!)

Here’s how singles can learn from my hasty date-making decisions …

The Quick and Dirty Takeaways:

You’ll save time and effort in the dating site long run if you …

  1. Read their profile: obvious, and yet many don’t do this!
  2. Engage in the 2/2/1 step: two dating site IMs; two offline emails; one quick (10-15 min) phone call. Then meet ‘n greet ‘n go from there.
  3. Four of five of the guys who I’ve dated slouch. Stop that! It comes off as lazy, insecure (not confident!), and uninterested. Which of those qualities is sexy? Exactly.

Quick Survey: Are you interested to know how to be more confident or how to stop going for the wrong potential mate? Answer in the comments or send me a short email.

xo AJ

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About the Author Anna Jorgensen

Vancouver dating coach for men who love women! ❤️ (Not PC and not a feminist.)

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