Warning: F-bombs ahead.
Let’s get to the nitty gritty of the matter—society may vary somewhat on its definition of beauty, but it still has its standards. The sooner we get over this accepted norm the better we’ll feel.
But there’s good news!
There’s a big ass difference between objective beauty (societal) and perceived beauty (individualized). (Learned this one from Matt Hussey. Yes, that’s his real last name!)
For example: Some men like big asses; some don’t.
If a man doesn’t typically go for a bootylicious babe, but after talking with her he becomes attracted to her charm, wit, personality, laugh, intellect, or whatever uniquely “her” quality, then her booty becomes less or even completely inconsequential. Her perceived beauty has nothing to do with her rear end.
I’ve got a girl friend who is voluptuous but thinks of herself as “a skinny chick” (her words). Along with her curvy body, she’s got a truckload of confidence. Result: Yummy men falling all over the place to win her affection and attention. Repeat cycle.
I’ve got another girl friend who is voluptuous and thinks all men are shallow and want skinny chicks. Yeah, she’s
kinda jaded. Result: No yummy men falling all over her. Repeat cycle.
By the way, ladies, when a man gives us a compliment, no matter how much we may disagree with him on it—it’s his perception of what he finds attractive, and he’s giving us a gift. Take the damn gift. Accept the compliment. Reject this gift = rejecting him and ourselves. Lose-lose.
Repeat after me—I am fucking amazing! #vanillaisbetterinbed
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