In No More Mr Nice Guy, Dr. Robert Glover describes what Nice Guy Syndrome is and where it comes from; how being “too nice” is holding guys back from having the life, love and great sex they want; and provides exercises to overcome Nice Guy Syndrome.
After I read Dr. Glover’s book, I realized how many nice guys I’ve gone out with. At least half the guys I’ve been in long-term, committed relationships with had Nice Guy Syndrome!
Guess what happened in all of those relationships?
After months, or years, of my being frustrated from loss of trust in these guys with Nice Guy Syndrome – which, by it’s very nature Nice Guy Syndrome creates loss of trust (watch the video to find out why) – I no longer respected these well-meaning guys, and broke up with them.
A crowd’s popular opinion can sway a man who doesn’t have his own opinion. An uncertain man can’t be trusted.
Women can sway a guy who always agrees with them. But!
If a man can’t stand up to a woman, he can’t stand up for a woman.
Women unconsciously shit-test guys all the time. We look for backbone. Because if a guy doesn’t have a backbone, a woman won’t feel safe with him.
Women’s primary need is to feel safe physically, and emotionally.
Nice Guys fail the shit-test time and time again…
Nice Guys don’t want to offend.
Or rock the boat.
Or draw attention to differences (in opinion, taste, preference, etc.) in case one of those differences is a deal-breaker for the girl.
Nice guys are simply too “nice.”
Being a Nice Guy is sure to get you in the friend zone, or worse, get you a bully girlfriend who thinks you’re a putz.
Break free, man, break free and be a man, a good man not a nice guy.
Here’s the video I mentioned in last weeks’ blog, No More Mr Nice Guy.
Vancouver Dating Coach for Shy Guys & Introverted Men. Matchmaker Liaison. Founder: Wingmam