How to Approach Women

And…How to Talk to Women

Most guys come to me to build up their confidence before they ask me how to approach women or how to talk to women. We work on both in real time while getting them out of their comfort zone, out on the street and approaching and talking to woman STAT.

How to approach women and how to talk to women each have a really—if not easy—simple solution … just do it!

I know, I know, you’re thinking—

But Anna, what do I say?

And …

But Anna, women are intimidating creatures. Sometimes, they’re mean.

Yep! You’re right.

But that doesn’t change the fact that if you want to get a girlfriend, or just want to start getting laid (so that you’re not so desperate for a girlfriend), then you’ve got to start approaching women and talking to women.

The sooner you do, the sooner you’ll fall on your face and fail.

Wait, what?

Yep! You read that right.

How to Approach Women Tip #1 — Rejection is Imminent

You’re going to fail. The sooner you get over the idea, the better you’ll feel. #truestory

Ninety-nine percent — yes, 99%! — of the women you approach are going to reject you. Some of them will be rude.

In fact, if you can psyche yourself up to setting the goal to fail, then you’ll have a much easier time getting started.

Here’s why …

How to Approach Women Tip #2

Focusing on the ideal outcome—getting a girl’s number, getting a date, getting laid, getting a girlfriend—sets the bar way too high.

You have a 99% chance of disappointment.

However, if your goal is to fail at getting her number or a date or easy sex or a regular cuddle buddy, then all you have to do is … just do it! As in: approach the girl and see what happens.

You have a 99% chance of succeeding — at failing.

The reason this is a better way of looking at the whole “how to approach women and how to talk to women” topic is because it takes the pressure off. But you really gotta be in the mindset TO FAIL.

The only goal is to TRY. Despite Yoda’s mantra of “there is no try, do or do not do,” we can look at the “do” part of that statement as simply doing the actual approach.

How to Approach Women Tip #3

Did you notice the positive aspect in the above two tips? No?

Well, here it is …

One percent (yep, a whole 1%) of women are not going to reject you!

Yes, that does mean that you may have to go through 99 women to get to that one friendly face. Or … you could get lucky on the first try. It could happen.

Mindset Mantra: Every “no” gets me closer to a “yes!”

Or like Nemo says, just keep swimming, just keep swimming.

How to Approach Women Tip #4

Ultimately, you want only one girlfriend.

This means that you need only a 1% success rate! Exactly. Refer back to Mindset Mantra!

Do you realize what this means?

The sooner you start approaching and talking to women, the sooner you’re going to find #100 and then you can move on to the fun parts of dating, yes, including cuddles and sex—YAY!!

But, Anna, what do I say to a woman when I approach her?

How to Talk to Women

Answer: Anything!

If a woman is open to being approached, you can stumble and trip over your cheesy pick-up lines — aka conversation openers — and it won’t matter. In fact, she may think it’s cute.

No guy wants to be cute, but in this case, your nervousness can come across as flattering and non-intimidating, because she knows she’s had an effect on you!

Okay, look, don’t believe me?

Here are the three best pick-up lines that have worked on me:

  1. Hi.
  2. How is your day going so far?
  3. What do you recommend is good here? (At coffee shops because that’s where I live!)

Truly, you don’t have to come up with something brilliant — you just have to open your mouth and have words actually come out.

How to Talk to Women Actionable

Your homework, should you wish to accept it, is to watch Nemo. Yep, it’s a kids’ cartoon, but it’s got some apropos adult advice in between the animation.

Make it a new habit to say “hi” to five new people every day — men or women, young or old, attractive or not-so-much.

As Nike highly recommends: Just dooo it!

xo AJ

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About the Author Anna Jorgensen

Vancouver Dating Coach for Shy Guys & Introverted Men. Matchmaker Liaison. Founder: Wingmam

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