A loyal WingmamTV YouTube subscriber had the balls to ask a girl out — YES! Go, dude, go for it (her)! But. Here’s the “but” … he made the most common mistake in how to get her number.
What’s the most common mistake men make in how to get a girl’s number?
He gave her his number.
Here’s why you should never give a girl your number.
I finally got the courage to approach and talk to a woman that I feel this insane level of attraction for.
She just has this presence about her (more than looks) that absolutely boggles my mind. I told her exactly that… I said, “I can’t specify what it is but you have this presence about you that is absolutely beautiful!”
She seemed stunned… I told her it was no pickup line, nor was it just about her looks.
Long story short… She tells me she has been dating someone for 6 months but seemed interested when I said I would like to take her on an old fashioned real date.
She told me, yeah it’s sad, it’s not that way anymore.
I left by giving her my number, not because I didn’t have the guts to get hers…
But she told me she was dating this other guy for a while now. So I gave her my number, I told her it’s no pressure but if things change, to call me, I want to take her out on a date.
Prior to this, she gives me lots of direct eye contact etc.
Two questions…. I was being very genuine with her…
Can women sense that vs the guy who just wants them for a fling ?
Also…. Did I handle her dating situation well by giving her my number and saying, if things change, call me?
Dude, you got 5 points on the pluses!
From the above two items deduct all the points gained in what he did right.
If you give a girl your number, then when you ask for hers she can easily avoid it by saying, “I’ve got yours, I’ll let you know.”
But here’s the kicker — she won’t let you know.
Even if she is interested!
Well, unless she’s totally desperate and needy. You want that?
Ok, so maybe you do, as a practice relationship, but we’re talking about girls you don’t wanna practice with, we’re talking about the ones you never wanna lose.
So assuming you’re playing for a keeper…
Say this, “How about we do this… “
Say that while looking for new contact entry in your phone, this way you’re not staring at her making her feel pressured and it feels more casual to her.
Women are emotional creatures, yes we can feel your energy and intention.
Continue with, “ … you put your number in my phone…”
While passing your phone to her on a new contact entry page. (Make it easy for her to say yes!)
“… and I’ll text you a simple hello, nothing more…”
Gauge her reaction. She may just give you her number!
But if not, because of an alleged boyfriend, then say,
“… Don’t worry, I respect your loyalty, so I’m just gonna say hello and then check back in 6 months to see if he’s still treating you right.”
If you’re really bold, throw in a wink and a cheeky grin.
Again, if she still won’t give you her number then she’s not interested even if she’s flattered and even if she’s (in that moment) slightly attracted.
So what, move on, next.
Text her this right after your leave — yes, even if (especially if) she can still visually see you!
Let’s assume her name is Claire…
“Hello, Beautiful Claire. He still treating you right? ;)”
If she gave you her (correct) number, then she’ll think this is funny and associated the feel-good feeling with you.
You can then gauge her reaction and interaction from there.
Wingmam Motto: Always leave them wanting more!
p.s. You’ll up your Sexy AF factor by taking action as recommended in my GET A GF COURSE.
Vancouver Dating Coach for Shy Guys & Introverted Men. Matchmaker Liaison. Founder: Wingmam