This question came in from a guy I “interviewed” on the app Bumble—similar to Tinder and Badoo (formerly known as Hot or Not)—which, by the nature of the app’s limited requirements for registering and the ease in signing up, lends itself to … hooking up.
Rule of Thumb: The less information required to get on a dating site or dating app, the more likely you’ll find people looking for shorter term relationships—or lazy daters. Is either of those what you want?
When we rely mostly on the visual images of a person without much (/any) personal information, we revert to our innate needs, and since Bumble can’t provide water, pizza, or sleep, sex it is!
However, daters that are not into hook ups or casual sex but are into longer term relationships using dating apps are either:
Dating sites notes (whether long or medium term or hookups or casual sex):
There are also specialty sites like let’s hang out (“casual” daters), pinkcupid.com (lesbian alert), ourtime.com (the “mature” crowd), fitness-singles.com (narcissists), sugardaddie.com (desperate), adultfriendfinder.com (kinky bastards … AJ deletes own profile a-sa… jk jk)
Knowing what you want—a short, medium or long-term relationship—is the first step to figuring out which sites and apps are suitable for your relationship goals. No goal is wrong as long as you’re being honest about it. It’s okay to be clear in your profile about what you’re looking for. In fact, doing so is kind and smart.
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