Short answer: Sort of.
A discussion on Facebook about whether or not we should stay friends with an ex received a shit ton of comments and varying opinions. Here’s mine.
I’m close friends with one of the five exes I had serious, long-term, monogamous relationships with. Previously, I’d been friendly—as opposed to friends with—all but one of them.
In fact, after we split, I played Cupid with three of these fellas.
They’re good men and just because we weren’t a good fit—so to speak—doesn’t mean they couldn’t be right for someone else I care about.
The length of those Cupid-inspired relationships varied and although they did end, they also served all parties well and no one hates my guts for shooting arrows.
So why aren’t we friends, anymore?
These men and I either no longer have mutual friends or they got new girlfriends who weren’t “spiritually enlightened and ego-aware” (i.e. they got jealous); or the guy was jealous of my new boyfriend; or we lived far, far away from each other; or we simply grew apart and there was no mutual benefit to continuing a close friendship.
I’ve written about men and women and their friendship exhaustively (and comedically) in my memoir (Me: A Rewrite—print version coming soon!) so I’ll simply offer a brief summary…
And sometimes, we have tough choices to make—the old pal or the new gal?—such is life.
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Vancouver dating coach for men who love women! ❤️ (Not PC and not a feminist.)