12 Tips for How to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back!

How to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back (When She Breaks Up With You)

When she breaks up with you it can feel like your world will end and you overanalyze how to get your ex girlfriend back pronto.

You obsess over her, think about her constantly, and want to message her with a pile of questions.

You apologize profusely, ask what you can do to get her back and sometimes even beg for another chance.the shit test

But somewhere in the back of your mind you kind of know none of these pleas are the best course of action.

You’re never in a good negotiating position when you’re feeling desperate. Never.

And whatever you’re desperate to sell (you!) comes off as having less value than ever. Ever!

So, the pre-tip to knowing how to get your ex girlfriend back, especially when she broke up with you, is that your neediness reinforces her decision to leave.

So, how do you get your ex GF back?

Here are some the 12 tips I go over in the video (be sure to watch the whole video for extra info and what not to do!):

1. Detox
2. Act
3. No contact
4. No cyber stalking (and don’t do this: ___!)
5. Space #Zombie
6. Friends/family (except if …!)

Can you guess the rest of tips for how to get your ex girlfriend back?

7. Self-improvement
8. Social media strategy
9. When and how to reply
10. Negative vs positive
11. Logic vs emotion
12. Laugh

+ Bonus Tip! (Can you guess what it is??) 😉

I know the heartbreak you feel is real. Real bad.

Heartbreak sucks.

Going through a break up is truly like being addicted and going through withdrawal.

But if you follow these steps, you’ll have the best chance of getting your ex to come back to you.

And… believe it or not, you’ll be able to decide if you even want her back. Hint: You might not.

But one step at a time.

So, tell me, which of these steps on how to get your ex girlfriend back have you messed up on?

Let me know in the comments!

Hang in there, you will get through this.

xo AJ

p.s. Love is the biggest risk of all in life. It’s the bravest thing you can do. Remember that because you were willing to take that risk you are one of the bravest guys out there. Courage is sexy. Got that?!


Anna is not a licensed therapist or professional psychologist. You are responsible for your own actions. Obey the law wherever you are / or are visiting. If you are considering self-harm, please contact a crisis line. The world needs you in it.

About the Author Anna Jorgensen

Vancouver dating coach for men who love women! ❤️ (Not PC and not a feminist.)

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Mark Feldman says May 24, 2021

She was manufacturing things to knit pick me on, when she knew nothing was really wrong. Then dropped the “I just don’t know if we’re compatible because we’re arguing”

I’m not going to just sit there & not defend myself… Frankly, my gut tells me she was just afraid because both of us finally found happiness with each other & she was so used to pining for a good relationship; when it landed in both our laps together, she didn’t know how to handle things… So, she created a way to push me away, out of fear.

It was like the pasta test. Throwing what ever she could make up, against the wall and seeing if anything stuck.

I feel like she was going through something internally (as well as menopause), and wasn’t confiding in me, with what she was going through. That’s probably why she lashed out.

WINGMAM, what do I do?

I want her back, but not if she isn’t willing to acknowledge & own how she mistreated my feelings.

Mark Feldman says May 25, 2021

Wingmam, my heart know I was taking the right steps to getting her back, before seeing your video….

However, I reached out because, I’m man enough to acknowledge I may have missed something.

Still, I’d very much like to hear from you and converse.

    Anna Jorgensen says May 25, 2021

    Hey Mark, thanks for watching my videos! My heart goes out to you. If you haven’t already watched them, I invite you to have a look at the videos in my Get Her Back playlist here.
    If you need more help, I answer short general questions on my newest video every Tuesday at 3pm PST.
    For specific, personal questions, please visit my coaching page here.

      Mark Feldman says May 25, 2021

      Thank you Anna.

      I’ve been brushing up on your advice in videos. Please don’t be offended if I disagree with a few tips? Like you say, it’s ok. Certain situations have certain exceptions, Right?

      It’s been 4 days into my 30 day detox & I began some of the corrections in my life, that were a major problem for Sarah & I. 1st & foremost, moving my elderly mother OUT (which is something I’ve been trying to do LONG before I met Sarah. She was so rude to my girlfriend and unaccepting…. Let’s face it, that was at least 51% of the problem. Having your mean old mom living with me, is a mega red flag. Shame on me. I should’ve moved her into a home LONG ago, right?

      Next week, I start the gym. I’ve had a membership for last 2 years…but Covid…ya we all know that one lol.

      I may be physically disabled from an accident, but I know Sarah didn’t care about that. She saw me for who I am inside. We broke up over silly shit. However, she was so right about a multitude of things.

      I tried going on your coaching section. Not sure if $295 is in my budget. I just cannot afford that expense now. Is there something we can work out?

        Anna Jorgensen says May 26, 2021

        So sorry, until I can clone myself, that’s the only option. However, I’m interviewing coaches to see if I can find someone I’d feel comfortable recommending. Once I’ve selected the appropriate person, I’ll update my Wingmam blog subscribers. Subscribe here if interested. But you are doing the right things, at least! Keep going! 🙂

Mark Feldman says May 31, 2021

Coach Wayne is a Pompous Jerk & an A-hole! Ya, I’ll say it. I looked into his teachings & he promotes hatred toward women. It’s beyond disgusting!!! He doesn’t give a Damn about a man’s feelings for True Love & it shows through his actions.

Anna, I believe in you!!!!!!! 10 days into 30 days, and I’m 40% repaired. How? Because I’m man enough to acknowledge my follies from prior. I let my family spin me into a perpetual Guilt Trip for taking care of my mother. All the while, they lived a free & happy life, while dumping her on me while I’m disabled & lost my business, making me feel like a failure in life…

I will stay the path….however I know Sarah too well & am unsure 30 days is necessary.

    Anna Jorgensen says June 1, 2021

    Thank you for believing in me and I’m so glad you’re staying the path. Keep going back to the Get Her Back videos to keep you on track.
    As for Wayne, I haven’t seen any of his recent videos, but he does have some correct philosophies about women. As with anything, it’s the intention behind the action that dictate whether a man loves women or not. The same action with different intent can have vastly different outcomes.
    If he doesn’t resonate with what’s right for you, don’t watch his stuff. 🙂

      Mark Feldman says June 1, 2021

      Anna, I love her.

      Last Romantic? Maybe I am.

      I love Sarah.

      No pedestal. I promise. I’d rather have her beside me. 🤗

      11 days in & wondering how I contact her. Social media is out. I refuse to play that game. Gotta put my foot down on that & focus on actual contact.


Mark Feldman says June 8, 2021

 @Your Wingmam  I promise you, Anna, I didn’t cheat. No no no. Nothing like that. Everything was a total & complete misunderstanding between her & I … We’re in our 40s. But she does like texting… However, I agree with you on calling. I’d prefer she hear my voice. It’s more sincere & personal.

12 more days till 30 day is up. I’ve not contacted at all, & I even disabled my social media so I wouldn’t be tempted. Plus, it will drive her nuts wondering why she can’t see my profile. 😉

Now, Father’s Day weekend (which happens to be day 30 for end of no contact), she’s going to Florida with her girl friends for the weekend. A girls trip…. I feel like I should call and leave a message (timed right of course lol) RIGHT before she leaves or while she’s on the plane….

That way, she’ll be thinking about us and how much we mean to each other, during her stay in Florida. 😉🤗

Devious? Perhaps. But, whatever it takes, right?

    Anna Jorgensen says June 11, 2021

    Make it a mysterious message: “I’ve got a surprise for you when you get back 😉 … Enjoy your trip! x” This shows you being supportive of her holiday and not insecure or jealous of her going and (if there’s any chance she’s still got some feelings) curious as to what the surprise is. Do not tell her. Make her wait. Of course this means you’ll have to have a surprise. Come up with something creative and assumptively confident she’ll be into it. Good luck!

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