How To Use Sex Toys To Enhance Your Sex Life

How to Use Sex Toys (Guest Post)

A house of cards. A car restoration. A fulfilling sex life. What do all of these things have to do with how to use sex toys, you may ask?

Well, first, what do they have in common?

They’re all difficult endeavors in one way or another, that’s what.

While I don’t know much about the first two, improving your sex life is something I know to be doable if you can put in the effort required.

It’s important for men to be as thoughtful and caring in the bedroom as they are outside of it if they want their relationships to continue developing gainfully.

One way to put your sex life into overdrive is by including sex toys, both for the spice factor and the practical benefits they bring.

So, without further ado, here are some ways to use sex toys to ensure everybody walks away satisfied from any sexual encounter you might find yourself in:

Use Them To Make Up For Physical Deficits

Let’s start simple by thinking about a modern & high quality vibrator.

It does a lot that the human penis just can’t do. It’s always hard, can vibrate at speeds faster than even the most epileptic fits can’t match, and isn’t limited in shape the same way a biological male is.

That means a good vibrator can hit tons of sensitive zones inside of a woman without breaking a sweat.

If you’re worried about your ability to last in bed or even maintain your erection, sex toys can easily fill in gaps to help you avoid any strange situations where you feel the need to apologize for your performance or lack thereof.

A big & wide sex toy can be excellent if your penis is on the smaller side or just not shaped in a way perfect to compliment her biology.

(Check out this guide to learn how to properly size your penis for sex toys.)

These are inanimate objects, they aren’t replacing you in any way, you’re simply using what’s available to you on the market to help bring your sexual partner the pleasure she so rightfully deserves.

Essentially, think of sex toys as useful extensions of your sexual prowess instead of stand-ins for your own junk.

Exploit everything they have to offer to round out your time in the bedroom so you can keep things flowing nicely and the moans coming non-stop.

Help Close The Orgasm Gap

It’s a well-known fact men usually reach orgasm during sex but women aren’t always as lucky.

The thing is, a large majority of women actually can’t reach climax through penetrative stimulation alone.

That’s not to say it doesn’t feel good or help them blow off steam, it just won’t get them over the hill the same way good old fashioned clitoral stimulation can.

The nerves in the clitoris are much more sensitive and have a much higher pleasure ceiling than any of those found in the vagina (except perhaps the g-spot, but that’s a whole other story).

By using sex toys, you can deliver powerful and pinpoint stimulation right to the clitoris & surrounding area with just a few button presses and a quick flick of the wrist.

Seriously, just apply a vibrator or sonic toy to the area and gauge her response to what you’re up to.

Keep giving her more of the kind of sensation she responds well to and before you know it you’ll have one satisfied woman laying in your bed.

Fill In Gaps In Your Enthusiasm

I’ll be realistic here, not every man out there enjoys spending lots of time going down on women or performing some magic finger work.

There’s nothing necessarily wrong with that, you’re allowed to like what you like and you aren’t forced to do any sexual acts you don’t enjoy doing.

Women can pick up on that lack of enthusiasm though, even if you do a good job acting you just simply won’t have the gusto typical of someone who’s fully committed.

By using sex toys you can give her the kind of stimulation she wants without you having to shy away because it isn’t quite your cup of tea.

Bullet vibrators for instance are a great way to get some outside help with your fingering skills, while a wearable vibrator like the Esca 2 by OhMiBod (reviewed here by Doctor Climax -> can be inserted during oral sex to help kick up the pleasure factor a little while you go down on her.

Simply put, you can easily use sex toys to give her the time of her life even during those moments where you’d prefer if things were going a slightly different way.

Wrapping Things Up

Hopefully, these points have helped you understand the physical and mental benefits sex toys can bring.

Some men get worried by the inclusion of sex toys, kind of like they’re being replaced or worked around. That is not the case at all!

Unless your penis happens to be unnaturally bumpy and can vibrate at breakneck speeds, a vibrator isn’t replacing what you can deliver as much as it is augmenting it.

You still get to control the sex toy itself and use what it can deliver to increase sexual tension to unforeseen heights, culminating in an explosive finish.

Sex toys mean more pleasure for her and they can help take the pressure off of you to deliver erotica-level sex using only what you were given at birth.

So go ahead, enjoy what these adult toys have to offer!

About the Author Anna Jorgensen

Vancouver dating coach for men who love women! ❤️ (Not PC and not a feminist.)

Leave a Comment:

Tim Spain says December 14, 2019

Excellent. Pleasure zones should be pleasured and a real man should not be selfish.

Rick Shipley says March 29, 2020

I discovered your channel yesterday. I found it very interesting.

I have to ask, are you frequently asked out by your subscribers?


    Anna Jorgensen says March 30, 2020

    Haha, thanks for finding my channel and blog!

    I get asked out enough to note on my Contact Me page to please not do it. 😀

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