You meet a cute little morsel but before you can say, “How you doin’?” you display these nasty habits that instantly turn her off.
Do not pass go. Do not collect $200.
Dude, if you scrap these nasty habits you’ll not only have them eating out of the palm of your hand but you’ll also feel like a better man.
Let’s explore each of these nasty habits that instantly turn her off—and the one surprising habit that INSTANTLY makes her want you more!
This one is pretty simple and obvious.
Bad grooming or no grooming may be #10 but it’s one of the first things she’ll notice in this list of nasty habits that instantly turn her off.
You meet a girl and you’re disheveled, smell bad and haven’t attended to you hair, skin and nails.
If you’ve just finished real man work, no big but otherwise…turn off!
Ask yourself if you really want to be with a woman who rarely bathes and smells bad.
Just like you’d be imagining a skanky snatch, she’d be imagining skanky sac.
If that made you mad, you might qualify for the second nasty habit that instantly turn her off.
A bad attitude.
What’s a bad attitude?
Glad you asked!
A bad attitude is focusing on negatives all the time; never being happy about anything and generally being a downer.
It’s Saturday morning and you’re in a long line at the grocery store and the you hear a sweet pretty lass behind you sigh.
Thinking you’re on the same frustrated page, you say to her with a scowl, “The manager should be fired for poor staff scheduling.”
Even if she agrees with you, unless she’s a Negative Nelly, she’ll assume your default setting is impatience and negativity.
Instead, you could say in a playful way, “Looks like some of the staff have the 26oz flu today.”
Life is hard enough without looking at the negatives all the time.
Along the same lines is…
It one thing to be negative in your own little world, but it takes it to a whole other level when you’re rude to others.
Especially when there’s no reason for it.
Hint: There’s never a reason to be rude.
You get to the cashier and say, “It’s about time” loud enough for Sweet Miss to hear you.
It’s not the cashiers fault the store is short staffed.
Acting disrespectfully to someone who doesn’t deserve your superior attitude is a major turnoff to any high value woman.
Hint: No one deserves anyone’s superior attitude!
And often, rudeness comes from #4…
Yep, insecurity is the fourth nasty habit that will instantly turn her off.
And women can detect insecurity from a country mile away.
It shows up as an inability to make and hold eye contact; in how you walk, stand, move around in the world; and yes, in how you treat yourself, her and others.
Just the Tip
Women mirror your feelings about you. If you feel less worthy, she’ll feel you’re less worthy.
I’ve done a tonne of videos on increasing confidence. I’ll put a link to that playlist below.
Something else that stems from insecurity is…
Helplessness is the opposite of resourcefulness.
You can either handle whatever life throws at you or you curl up in the corner like a child.
You’ve managed to get past her moat and you’re chatting about your work.
She ask you what you love most about your job and you say, “Friday 5pm.”
Then you go on a bit of a diatribe about the disorganized working conditions, your terrible boss and your feeling of stagnancy in the company.
She says, “Sounds like you don’t like your job very much. Is there something you can do to change any of those things or find a different job?”
But you tell her it’d be the same anywhere else and what’s the point trying.
Women are attracted to resourcefulness and turned off by helplessness.
Toddlers are helpless.
She does not want an adult child who feels defeated without even trying.
If this tough love tip hit a trigger, know it might be something to take a closer look at. Awareness is the first step to change!
Along those lines is…
Women love men who can take charge and lead the way without hesitation.
Being decisive proves he’s made enough decisions along the way to trust his own choices—even when they don’t work out as planned.
Let’s say her about making changes inspired you to talk to your boss about some changes you’d like to see happen at work.
But your boss really is a dick and shuts your ideas down without even considering them.
You get lucky and someone else offers you a job that sounds pretty good but it’s a newer company and you’re worried about its security.
But you hum and hah and finally decide it’s worth the risk but it’s too late, someone else took the opportunity.
You decide to give up trying. Decisions are too difficult.
Sexy or not so much?
Correct, not so much. 🙁
Which leads us to how this shows up with women…
You actually get Sweet Thing’s number and set up a day and time to get together.
But instead of being decisive and saying, “Thursday, 7pm at Fab Wine Bar” you say, “What works for you? Where do you want to go?”
You think you’re being nice but she experiences you being indecisive, lazy or lacking confidence. Ouch.
Just the Tip
If you don’t practice learning a new skill, do you get better or worse at it?
You get worse; decision making is a skill you can get better at.
Which leads to the next of these nasty habits that instantly turns her off.
Women respect a man who is driven.
What a man is driven toward is less important than the fact he is driven toward something.
When you’ve got no ambition or you’ve lost your ambition, you become stagnant.
Hint: Stagnancy and lack of purpose, especially for men, can lead to depression.
Due to the crazy state of the world, you’re out of work, put on a few extra pounds and forget to change your sweatpants regularly.
Instead of actively looking for work, working out or putting on a clean pair of pants, you give up.
Stagnancy, depression and lack of ambition are not a turn on.
Giving up is not a turn on.
I know some of these tough truths are hitting home.
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Because, guess what?
Lack of ambition is not only one of the top 10 nasty habits that instantly turn her off but it can lead to the next nasty habit.
Sometimes, when you’ve lost your way and the thought of turning your ship around is too overwhelming, you’ll turn to the blame game.
If you use these words, you need to nip lack of accountability in the bud, “It’s not my fault because… [insert excuse here].”
Just the Tip
Although women may be able to empathize with extreme cases of “not my fault,” lack of accountability is still a major turnoff.
Yep, I hear ya, women are terribly guilty of not accepting responsibility! (Watch the video at the end for what you can do about that… if you want to, of course!)
gotta get to work on what’s within your control.
You are best to always and unconditionally take responsibility wherever you can.
This doesn’t mean saying, “It’s my fault because…” though, sometimes, it can.
Lack of accountability closely relates to the next of the nasty habits that instantly turns her off…
Tell me lies, tell me sweet little lies…
Actually, no, please don’t.
Women automatically assume if you lie about the little things you’ll for sure lie about the big things.
On the other hand, we assume if you tell the truth about the little things, there’s a greater chance you’ll tell the truth about the big things.
You want to go out with the boys but she wants to get together.
So you “stretch the truth” by saying you’ve got a work thing to go to.
Ooooof course, she finds out and freaks out.
Just The Tip!
Even a high value woman will not take well to being lied to!
If she can’t handle that, you’ve got a damaged woman on your hands.
Hint: Lying tells her you can’t handle the consequences of telling the truth. It shows weakness.
Telling the truth when doing so is tough takes strength and courage.
She’d have been less angry if you’d said, “Babe, I can’t wait to see you but I’m getting together with the guys tonight.”
When a woman trusts your word, she feels safe and does’t look for fibs that aren’t there.
But at the first sign of lying, she’ll be instantly turned off and wonder what else you’ve lied about and what else you will lie about!
If you’ve have you ever got caught in a fib by a woman you know what I’m talking about!
Ok, this next one is something probably all of you’ve been got caught doing at some point.
And it leads to the one kinda counter intuitive thing you can do to turn her on.
If you’re a straight man, you’re wired to notice women!
But that doesn’t mean your lady appreciates a man’s nature, just like some things about women drive you nuts.
When you can’t control yourself to keep your eyes on your prize and off other women, your gal will feel disrespected and untrusting.
Checking out other women is definitely one of the nasty habits that instantly turn her off.
However, it does bring us to the one surprising thing that makes her want you more.
The counter intuitive thing that makes her kinda mad but turns her on is…
…when another hot chick notices you and you don’t engage with that woman but instead playfully tease your girl about it.
You give no validation to Chick Checking You Out even though you know she wants it.
But you do let your gal, or the girl you want, know it didn’t go unnoticed.
When other women want you that helps validate your value to your girl and when you honour your woman by not giving that other hoe attention, your gal feels safe with you.
It shows you have value and it shows you can control yourself because even though you appreciate other women’s validation, you’re unaffected because you don’t NEED it.
Again, if you want the map to the love meadow, get my WakeUP2Luv program.
Yes, it is relevant in today’s crazy world because, in fact…
Our crazy world is making more women want to be with a man who makes them feel safe in it!
So, there are more opportunities with women than when everyone felt a lot more certain about things.
Nothing changes if nothing changes.
Nothing changes if you don’t.
You got this!
Vancouver dating coach for men who love women! ❤️ (Not PC and not a feminist.)