The Best Advice to Young Men in Their 20s Jordan Peterson Video Review (BEWARE!)
Jordan Peterson’s advice to young men in their 20s might be the only advice I’ve seen from him I disagree with.
I’m a huge Jordan Peterson fan but to provide the most helpful advice to young men in their 20s, I thought it better to find something I could offer a different perspective on.
Let’s go through this short Jordan Peterson clip and then I’ll share my top 2 bits of advice for young men in their 20s.
Advice to Young Men
In the short video clip, Jordan’s daughter Mikaela asks him what advice he’d give to young men today.
He says young men should make a plan, figure out your interests, be disciplined about something…
…allow yourself to believe you have something to contribute to the world and don’t be afraid of taking on responsibility.
He says, “[Responsibility] is what sustains you in your life.”
So far I totally agree and I’m going to talk more about responsibility and why it sustains you in a moment.
But you might be thinking, “But Anna what if I don’t know what I like or I’m not good at anything?”
Stick with me, I have a step-by-step solution for you.
He goes on to say that while you shouldn’t take on too much responsibility, there are more problems with not taking on enough.
He says a lot of young men are afraid of relationship commitment because it’ll interfere with your pursuit of goals, but that’s not the case.
Ok, so here’s where I veer in a slightly different direction.
I agree you’ll feel better about yourself and be happier in life when you not only accept but embrace responsibility.
Jordan doesn’t say why purpose is important to young men but if you’ve watched his videos, he generally says responsibility gives you purpose.
And essentially, without purpose you slip into victimhood, bitterness and/or depression.
But I think there are reasons why you want to be cautious when it comes to committed relationships in today’s climate.
More on that in a minute.
First, let’s get back to why Jordan Peterson thinks a committed relationship early in life is a good thing.
He recommends finding a committed relationship that is sustained over time and likely produces children.
“That’s life.” He says.
While he doesn’t expressly say why this is good is goes back to responsibility provides purpose.
And there’s hardly a more meaningful responsibility most men will experience than marriage and family.
Now, he does acknowledge this isn’t the best path for every young man, but he thinks it is for most.
And that for him, even though he’s had a productive and purposeful career, what he’s valued most has been his wife and family.
He says, “So don’t be afraid of that—or be afraid, but don’t let it stop you from pursuing it.”
I have no doubt this is true for Jordan Peterson and many men of his generation who’ve managed to avoid divorce.
There are a lot of complicated factors young men face today that baby boomers didn’t.
Times really have changed.
That’s not to say if you’re a young man in your 20s you shouldn’t want to find that special person you want to share your life with.
Not at all! That’s what my whole channel is about!
Just don’t be too quick to settle down that you end up settling.
And the reality of dating is vastly different than it was 20, 30 or 40 years ago.
The good news is, as a man vs a woman, you have time on your side!
As men age, grow and develop their attributes you have the opportunity to gain more female options.
No matter how amazing an older woman may be, she has fewer options than a man of equivalent accomplishments.
So with that said here’s…
Wingmam’s Best Advice for Young Men in Their 20s
1.You don’t have to already be established in your career, but you need to know what direction you’re going in and actively be taking action in that direction.
Figure out the direction you need to go before making such a massive, hopefully lifelong, commitment.
Instead of latching on to the first girl who shows interest, be selective.
In order to be able to be selective, you need to have a few things going for you.
Young women don’t expect young men in their 20s or younger to be wealthy.
If you are, that’s a bonus for them—even if they’re not a gold digger.
But, if they’re relationship-minded, they do need to see you’ll be able to provide for (or at least contribute to) a family one day.
Even if she’s a feminist and plans on working or even out earning you.
Worthy women don’t settle down with men who are financially or career irresponsible.
So, you need to know which direction you’re heading toward with a career and you have to be taking action toward that goal.
Even if you end up switching career paths later, at least she sees you being proactive.
2. You can’t make a young woman ready to settle down if she’s not ready to settle down.
Because of the women’s sexual liberation movement, a lot of young women want to sow their wild oats before settling down.
This means just because she sleeps with you doesn’t guarantee she’s interested in a relationship.
For the fellas who prefer not to settle down this seems like good news.
But it’s not really—more on THAT in a minute.
There are many young women who are as into pump and dump as any man might be.
Even a Chad won’t lock her down if she wants to taste the rainbow—as in test out a lot of flavours.
In fact, if her social group encourages promiscuity, she’ll want to make some kind of social quota before considering a real relationship.
That could take years.
Downside to Hoeville
The reason this isn’t such a good thing for guys who want the same thing is because…
…when you’re into the “hit it and quit it” mentality you develop different skills—pick up skills.
Pick up skills work on women who are not ready to settle down—and who are not worthy of settling down with.
So then you become jaded toward women and start believing all women are unworthy, unfaithful sluts waiting to “level up.”
Yes, finding an emotionally healthy woman ready and worthy of settling down with is like finding a needle in a haystack these days.
They do exist!
But there’s a hella lotta competition for them.
Which brings us back to #1.
The real keepers are looking for a man who has a clear path of where he wants to be in 5, 10, 15 years…
…and is actively working toward that goal.
That’s the kind of man she sees as high value.
If she can snatch him up now, she’ll be able to grow with him.
But career isn’t the only metric these high value women consider.
The good news is you don’t have to have 6-pack abs, a 6-figure income or be 6’ tall.
But there are other things she needs.
If you want to know how to make a plan, figure out your interests, and be disciplined about something…
My step-by-step what-to-do-first and what-to-do-next WakeUP2Luv program provides an individualized process to figure all of this out.
It’s been available long enough I’m now get a lot of story’s from Stans and Jeffrey’s telling me they’ve found their dream girl and some are getting married.
You don’t have to get married but if you want to get a great girlfriend, my program will help you immensely.
If you do the work.
Nothing changes if nothing changes.