True or False: Nice Guys Finish Last?

Nice Guys Finish Last But Good Men Come In First The difference between nice guys and good guys is … self-assurance. And now here’s a photo of a dolphin … No, just kidding. Well, yes, it is a photo of a dolphin, but there’s more to this whole nice-guys-finish-last story. And if you don’t want to be […]

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Should A Man Pay For Dinner?

In the Modern Age—Should a Man Pay or Is That Sexist? Short answer: Yes. Yes! YES, pay! Longer answer: (yes if…) …the concept of a chivalrous act that has persisted when many others have diminished, is not financially driven. James Michael Sama Before we all get our backs up, let’s examine my reasoning. Never mind […]

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How Childhood Trauma Affects Adult Rejection

Experiencing Childhood Trauma Affects Adult Rejection Warning: Trigger Alert The more you get rejected, the better you get at handling it. ~ Richard Phu, Dating Coach That is a quote I posted on my Facebook Wingmam page. I noted that when I was in real estate sales I got rejected “a shit tonne.” An astute […]

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Why “Just Be Yourself” Isn’t Enough Unless…

You’re Enough but Just Be Yourself Isn’t. If you know me or have read my posts for a while, you know that I like to ruffle feathers and stir shit up, as in: challenge the status quo. (Whatever that means.) But before you read this be yourself blog, I must disclose that either because of […]

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Cougar Life: Older Women Dating Younger Men

What’s the Deal with Older Women Dating Younger Men? Cougar: 1. Also called mountain lion, panther, puma; a large, tawny cat, Felis concolor, of North and South America: now greatly reduced in number and endangered in some areas. 2. Informal. An older woman who seeks sexual relationships with much younger men: He’s in his 20s, but […]

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