Category: Dating 101, Tips For Chicks | By:  Anna Jorgensen | 0 Comments


“… But He Should Know Better …”

Women are amazing creatures, highly tuned and très intuitive, but men are not mind readers! They’re not even good at guessing what we’re thinking, and guess what? No, they shouldn’t have to be.

And, by the way, I made all of these mistakes in many of my relationships! Until I figured out how to be effective instead of frustrated.

Learn from my grey-hair-causing experiences.

I decided to write this blog after Frustrated Lady in Waiting #3 made essentially the same statement to me about her Knight in Dusty Armour — “Blah blah blah, and he should know … blah blah blah …”

I admit that I get my shackles up pretty quick in defence of men when I hear this unfair statement.

“Why? Why should he know that? Men are not mind readers!”

And every time I say this, I get stunned looks — or radio silence — from my fellow femmes, followed (sometimes) by outright indignation.

“Well, he should just know.”

I repeat, “Why? Why and how should he know something that is only in your mind unless and until you verbalize it.” (Rhetorical.)

Let’s be honest with each other: even our highly sensitive and sympathetic sex — us women —make assumptions that turn out to be incorrect. And we’re good at this shit. Men’s brain are wired differently than ours and they don’t have the mind reading skills women do. Unless they’re gay, girls! (This is biology, not psychology.)

So when we expect them to read our minds, we are setting men up for failure.

How to Be Attractive to Men Tip #1

What to do?

  • Use our voices and ask for what we want. Kindly.

If we were talking with our best girl friend, and she didn’t catch on to what we were thinking, would we be all bitchy about it? Not if we wanted a real friend for long!

We’d explain ourselves. And if we didn’t, it would be our own damn fault if our friend continued to not know what we want.

So, why don’t we give men the same consideration?

Instead of setting a guy up for failure, just ask him ― for what you want, or what he’s thinking, or what he wants, or whatever!

Women who are straight up about their needs with men get more of their needs met and met gratefully by those men. We gotta show them where the goal posts are!

How to Be Attractive to Men Tip #2

This should go without saying, but obviously it doesn’t since I’m writing it here …

If we want to have a man become more attracted to us and do more for us —

  • Thank men graciously and genuinely when they do stuff for us! Rewarded good behaviour gets more good behaviour.

Yes, men are like little boys in this respect. They shine when we shine the spotlight on their good deeds. So what?! Deal with it. This takes nothing away from being a woman.

I just gave you the playbook on how to become a Goddess who gets the guy. You’re welcome.

How to Be Attractive to Men Tip #3

Yep, our best gal pal would likely step up and meet our needs at her earliest convenience or even her earliest inconvenience. That’s because we’re women, and we’re wired that way. We nurture.

Men are different. They have priorities that revolve around providing, protecting and procreating. Just because we don’t understand the underlying reason for what they choose to do or not do right this minute, doesn’t mean there isn’t a rational reason in their own minds.

  • We must be patient! Let a man acquiesce our desire in his own good timing.

For this to happen in a timely manner, we need to take responsibility for wording the request in such a way so that he understands why time is of the essence and what it will provide for us. Thank you, Alison Armstrong (author and relationship coach) for your amazing insights!

Why? Because men are not mind readers. But they do want to please us. I promise.

If you make a game out of it, you might even have some fun. Wield your power responsibly, Goddess.

xo AJ

p.s. Become a Goddess faster. Get the guy faster. Click here!


About the Author Anna Jorgensen

Dating, Love and Relationship Coach Founder: Wingmam, Vancouver, Canada Warning: Not PC, not a feminist ❤️


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