Category: Dating 101, Tips For Chicks | By:  Anna Jorgensen | 0 Comments


Can a Single Dating Coach Give Good Dating Advice for Women?

A follower of my Facebook Page asked me how I — being a single woman — could possibly give good love advice. My reply, “Great question!” It got me thinking about how to choose a dating coach.

3 Benefits of a Dating Coach Who’s Single

I’m in the field just like you.

We all admire couples who make relationships look Hollywood romantic and easy, but we tend to not fully trust their longevity until they’ve been together for several years.

So, if a dating coach has been in a relationship for enough happy years for us to trust them, they may be out of touch with what’s happening in the dating scene today.

Have they ever been on Tinder? Or on any dating apps or dating sites? Do they know what the best dating apps are? Do they know what changes and trends are happening on dating apps? For example: Tinder isn’t just for hook-ups and casual sex anymore.

I practice what I preach; I’m on several dating sites. I go on dates, text and interact with single men in today’s dating world.

Maybe most importantly, I ask those men a lot of questions about what they’re looking for in a mate, what turns them on and off, and what their dating struggles are.

A dating coach who’s been in a long-term, committed relationship probably isn’t active in the dating scene.

It’s kind of like going to a retired brain surgeon who isn’t up to date on the latest advances in medicine. You want that doc operating on your noggin?

I’ve had relationships that failed.

Wait, Anna, how is that a good quality in a dating coach??

Well, simply put: you get to learn from my mistakes. Though, I don’t consider life’s experiences mistakes — unless you land your ass in jail, yeah, that could be a mistake — but, rather, varied learning experiences.

I learned that to sustain a successful long-term relationship, chemistry ain’t enough. And that love ain’t enough, either.

Because of the relationships that didn’t work out, I’ve spent the last 10 years studying relationships. I also studied general psychology for the 10+ years prior to that, but specifically for business success. (Though most of what I learned is applicable to personal relationships, too. If I’d realized that, I might not be divorced because I never would’ve married my ex.)

But I was successful in getting every guy I wanted, which brings me to …

I got every guy I wanted.¹

I know that sounds egotistical, but I didn’t say I could get any guy. Nope, I can’t. No one can.

But I have got every guy I wanted and went for with the intent of getting and haven’t been reject or dumped. So, I’m pretty good at getting guys.

When I was in business, my mentors were the people who had the most success in the areas I wanted to excel at. Learn from someone who’s mastered what you want to achieve.

It’s the same principle for learning how to get the guy.

But, Anna, your relationships failed.

Exactly. Refer back to #2: learn from my faux pas!

When I finally realized that I was the common denominator in all my “failed” relationships, I realized it was time to “fix my picker and stop picking fixer uppers.”

By the way, a fixer upper — potential mate — isn’t actually flawed! He’s just not the right match.

I figured out how to fix my picker — part of what I teach in my WakeUP2Luv course — so now I know how to avoid “fixer-uppers” and am extremely selective about who I’ll choose to potentially spend the rest of my life with.

My personal dating motto: the next guy that beds this gal, weds this gal!

I don’t necessarily mean that literally, but I say it to remind myself not to go for just physical attraction. Been there, dumb that!

There must be a realistic chance of long-term potential without looking at the “potential” of the other person. We gotta want them “as is where is.”

How to Choose a Dating Coach Summary

When choosing a coach — whether a business coach, life coach or dating coach — we need to look at how much experience they have in the area we need now.

If you’ve already got a guy and want to know how to keep him, then a relationship coach who’s been in a happy union for a while could be better for you.

But if you can’t even get a date, never mind get a guy interested, or if you are getting rejected, ghosted, strung along or slotted into the “booty call” zone, then a dating coach who is single and getting the results you’re looking for might be a more effective choice. (Also, if you keep picking “fixer-uppers!”)

Since I figured men out, I haven’t been rejected, ghosted, strung along or slotted into the booty call zone, and every guy I’ve slept with — including first-date sex — wanted to marry me. (I’m not a rockstar in bed and the men were far from losers.)¹

The most important quality to look for in a dating coach is whether or not their teachings make sense to you. Does their style resonate?

I know women far more beautiful, successful and smarter than me but who can’t get or keep a guy for the life of them. And I know women who, by society’s standards, aren’t “all that” but have men falling all over to get their attention.

And you don’t have to become something or someone that you’re not to get the guy! In fact, that’s the worst thing you could do.

xo
AJ

¹By the way, just so you don’t totally hate my overly confident ass, know that there have been times where I wasn’t certain I wanted the guy and didn’t pull out my A(nna) game and the guy didn’t “fall” for me. And there have been a couple times when I was instantly physically attracted to a guy and didn’t follow my own rules and never heard from the guy. (See embarrassing post here. Note: This is my personal blog, ripe with silliness and exaggeration for your reading pleasure. Also, there’s lots of swears and God references. Read at own risk!) But in those (altogether: three) cases, I knew I was messing up while I was messing up!

If you’re unsure about my teachings, take my course! If you don’t 100% love it, simply ask for a refund within 60 days. Yep, you get two months to decide. I won’t be offended if it’s not for you, but I’ll bet you find Mr. Right in 2018 if you invest in you and WakeUP2Luv today.


About the Author Anna Jorgensen

Dating, Love and Relationship Coach Founder: Wingmam, Vancouver, Canada Warning: Not PC, not a feminist ❤️


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