Category: Guest Post Y'all!, Tips For Chicks | By:  Anna Jorgensen | 3 Comments


The Purpose of Texting by Adam Smith

Did you know that only 25 years ago texting did not even exist? How crazy is that? You were probably alive and nobody even knew what texting was. So when to text and when not to text a guy is a question all women will benefit from knowing the answer to!

Business Insider found the average millenial (that’s us!) exchanges 67 texts every day.

This stat is really important because texting has shaped a lot of our communication and if we aren’t careful, we could be sending the wrong message.

A lot of us think that texting is a really convenient way to chat instead of picking up the phone. This is true is most cases but you have to understand there are only two main purposes for texting.

Why We Text

  1. Diversion – a distraction from the routine, something fun, sexy, flirtacious, etc.
  2. Planning – strategizing about the future and when to meet up again.

Diversion may sound strange, but let me give some context which will help. Diversion means distraction or disengagement with other things. Diversion redirects our thoughts from the mundane and bland things of the day.

People are so bored! They are dying to be entertained. That’s why we love movies, social media, and adventures.

Have you ever wondered why it’s so easy to sit down in front of the TV instead of just sitting there? People would rather watch something bad on TV than just sit there, bored out of their minds.

Once you understand that most people’s lives are not that exciting, you’ll begin to see how much they crave entertainment.

The planning part is pretty straight forward.

How To Get Him Excited To See You Again Through Texts

  • Don’t go deep into long conversations meaning to be heartfelt.

Texting is not the place for this type of talk. There are certain types of conversation appropriate in certain settings. Think about it. You wouldn’t have a conversation with your girl friends about the guy you made out with last night during a church service. Is it okay to have a conversation like that? Sure, but it’s not the right time or place.

Texting is not the right place for that type of long-drawn out conversation. Don’t be the get-to-know-you girl.

“Get-to-know-you” types of questions are inappropriate via texting. When you start asking things like, “What do you do for work?” it tends to get pretty boring pretty fast. Timing is everything.

You have to be able to know the appropriate timing for when to use what language.

Instead, save those for when you actually pick up the phone to call him or for when you see him next.

I hope you implement this idea so you can build stronger, tighter relationships. I know it’s going to exponentially improve your dating life.

As Anna says, “Always leave them wanting more!”

Adam from myLVP


About the Author Anna Jorgensen

Dating, Love and Relationship Coach Founder: Wingmam, Vancouver, Canada Warning: Not PC, not a feminist ❤️


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  1. I must say Adam, you have a pretty good insight in the way that you think. I appreciate you sharing these thoughts and the way that guys think. We need more guys like you out there to us out. Thank you so much.

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