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Why Men Disappear!

Guest Post by Erin Bilgin

He just left you.

You are devastated, distraught, and disappointed. Most of all you’re just downright disconcerted. And confused about why men disappear.

Instead of grasping at straws, sitting there replaying every conversation you’ve had in your head and trying to find out where the relationship went wrong, you should just move on.

However, if you really want to know the reasons when there didn’t seem to be any, we’re here to fill in the blanks as to the reasons why men disappear.

Although every situation is different and these aren’t necessarily the golden ticket or perfect answer to why men disappear, we have a few pretty decent guesses.

Magic usually leave a trace, and just like an unprofessional illusionist, he may have left some clues— we’ll just help point them out to you. Here are our four reasons why men may disappear:

#1: He Is Sick Of Your Complaining

Whether you’re complaining constantly about work or school, nobody really likes to hear whining.

If you were constantly nitpicking his behavior, he was probably also really fed up with your complaints about him, too.

Complainers are drainers! ~ Wingmam

Regardless if you were right or not, being complained to—especially if it is about the other person isn’t the best way to keep a relationship going.

How to avoid it next time:

Although we need it in a partner to be able to vent out our feelings, do a self-check to see if you’re asking him about his day, too — and then really listen.

#2: He Truly Is Bored

It happens to the best of relationships. Regardless of what kind of people you are, everyone gets “used to” or “comfortable” with the person they’re with. Even with friendships or jobs or the basis of life — routine and predictability can get boring.

Unfortunately, this time it might’ve been your relationship with him that became too routine. If this was the case, unless you noticed it, it would have been too late.

How to avoid it next time:

Keep things spicy — and not just in the bedroom. Go on spontaneous dates, plan out days, surprise each other with gifts, and they don’t have to be expensive.

#3: You’re Being Needy

Although you dependency in a relationship is a good thing — it only works to an extent.

If you aren’t as independent as you need to be and are consistently and persistently needy, it will murder a relationship and is another of the reasons why men disappear.

How to avoid it next time:

Learn to be together without being dependent. Be comfortable being on your own and loving yourself before you are with anyone else.

#4: He Met Someone Else

In this day and age, it’s easier to meet people than before. We live in a world where an affair is at a click or tap away. Therefore, if he left, it might have been for someone else.

Being unfaithful is really the lowest of lows but you asked for the truth, not a tissue.

How to avoid it next time:

If you find that this has just happened to you or if you feel him slipping away, you can either fight for the relationship or let it go.

However, with whatever choice you choose, you should know — be yourself, love yourself, and never change who you are just to be with someone (unless, of course, it’s for the better — like getting rid of a self-destructive attitude or cleaning up a harmful addiction).

You will find the right person out there for you if you want to, so don’t be discouraged. This guy already left and he doesn’t know what he just let go of — so chin up, beautiful! You deserve better.

Knowing more reasons will help you to an extent but try to focus on being happy in your own life; we only get one life, after all.

AJ Note: Bam! You know what I love about brutal honesty? Oh, just everything! I’d rather know the un-sugar-coated truth and move on than give any guy one more sweet thought. Next! Thanks, Erin!


About the Author Anna Jorgensen

Dating, Love and Relationship Coach Founder: Wingmam, Vancouver, Canada Warning: Not PC, not a feminist ❤️


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