How to Be a High Value Woman (5 Quick Tips!)

How to Be a High Value Woman and Get the Guy

Let’s be honest with ourselves, ladies, no high value guy wants a low value woman, so if you want a good man you need to know how to be a high value woman.

Let’s start with the basic do’s and don’ts for bringing value to the table…

Don’t rearrange your schedule for him, but…

You express low value if you constantly accommodate a guy who can’t  / won’t accommodate you.

If you’re important he will find a way to make you a priority.

Being busy (read: having a full life) makes you interesting and this quality gives you more importance in his mind.

If you’re not important, maybe he’s too busy for the kind of relationship you want or he’s just not that into you.


Do respectfully tell a guy if he’s done something “wrong.”

It’s your playbook, and he didn’t write it.

You’ve got to clearly spell it out because “Men don’t speak ‘hint’.”

In this day and age, it’s probably not his fault for not being taught how to “do relationships.”

Help a brother out.

Coming from a positive place encourages “better” behaviour.

Start with something like, “I love when you…” or “I really like it when a guy…”

Don’t compare the new guy to all the best qualities of every guy you ever dated.

Reality check: Mr. Perfect only exists in your imagination. Hashtag: dang.

You don’t want him comparing you to his perfect ex-girlfriend, right? Riiight??

Enough said.

Do figure out your Top Five.

How to be a high value woman includes having standards, which means you’ve got to know what those standards are.

The top five qualities your man must have to advance to the next round are just the beginning of you having standards, but they’re the most important place to begin.

Only five?

Yep, only five.

Everything else is negotiable.

As Yoda would say, “Wisely choose you must.”

Step-by-step process for how to figure this out in my WakeUP2Luv program for women here.

Don’t fall for his “potential!”

As important as having a top five are realizing your potential mate’s limitations.

He may never change.

It’s challenging enough to change ourselves when we want to never mind when we’re OK with who we are and someone else wants us to be different.

And the older he is, the less likely he will change, so be prepared to accept him, ne, love and adore him “as is where is.”

After all, you want the same from him, too, no?

Answer: Yes.

That’s why you’ve got to be selective from the get-go!

How to Be a High Value Woman Takeaways:

  1. Have a full life.
  2. Be your best self.
  3. Be honest (and kind!)
  4. Get real(istic).
  5. Have standards.


Find, attract and keep the right guy with my WakeUP2Luv program!

xo Anna

About the Author Anna Jorgensen

Dating, Love and Relationship Coach Founder: Wingmam, Vancouver, Canada Warning: Not PC, not a feminist ❤️

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