Give a Man What He Needs—Get What You Want
Ladies be reading this going, “Hell, no!” But before you send a guy running with his tail between his legs because you think all he wants is a little tail, read this …
Okay, no doubt, guys love sex. But so do us women. At least, most of the women I’ve interviewed over the years.
The thing is that women have been taught and have learned to use sex as a weapon—or, at the least, as a negotiating tool—which means we actually win twice. We get sex, and we get to use it to get what we want from men.
But.
Men don’t just want sex. In fact, men want something more than sex from women, and it doesn’t require us uncrossing our legs.
How to Get What You Want from a Man
Men shine when we give them sexual validation.
Ok, so what is sexual validation?
Basically, sexual validation is making a man feel sexually desirable. Or—in other words—not making a man feel sexually undesirable.
Making a man feel sexually desirable does not mean putting out when you don’t want to. It does not mean putting up with bad behaviour. And it does not mean offering disingenuous sexual compliments just to get our way.
It does mean putting out when we want to, verbally appreciating his good behaviour, and offering sincere compliments because he deserves it.
One of the things men are often discouraged by is our lack of appreciation. And I gotta tell yah, ladies, we are def definitely guilty of being stingy with giving compliments and verbal appreciation.
Men are way more complimentary to women.
But, Anna, men take advantage when we’re nice to them! Give them an inch, and they want to give you 6” back!
Men cannot take advantage of a woman who has boundaries and standards. (I’m talking about decent guys, not rapists and misogynists.) Not only that, but good men value women with boundaries and standards.
Hint: Women can have values and high standards while offering sexual validation to men. #POW-Her-FULL
How to Get What You Want from a Man Takeaway
Allowing a safe level of vulnerability by making a man feel sexually validated, respected and appreciated inspires good men to bend over backwards to give a woman what she wants.
How to Get What You Want from a Man Actionable
- Starting today, I challenge you to start practicing doling out the compliments to the men in your life. Any and all of them. Find something to appreciate.
- Tell them! One a day to start.
- Come back here and leave comments on how your relationship with men has changed. Bam!
xo AJ
p.s. If you really want to get into the mindset of what men want and how you can safely give it to them—and have them chasing you—check out my Get A Boyfriend program.
