Ditch the Desperation!
Want to get the guy you really want? Then we gotta mind our enthusiastic excitement. Yep, those butterflies! Those belly flip-flops! The giddy giggles with girl friends! And the “EEEEE!!!!” texts to our BFFs when he messages us with “Good Morning, Beautiful ;)”
If you’ve ever been a smitten kitten, then you know exactly what I’m talking about, Willis.
Yes, it’s supercali-fragile-ego exciting, but it’s also the time when we are “way too much” for the dude at hand.
Unless you want to be the Boss Babe wearing the pants in the family and running the show, we simply must let a man chase us.
Sorry, that’s straight up millions of years of non-evolved biology — don’t shoot the messenger (me)!
If you are a Boss Babe who wants to take on the role with the offensively anti-feministic label of “man of the house” — all the power to you! You will eventually get the guy… a “nice guy.” (And … this site is not for you.)
But if you’re a modern Boss Babe who wants to rock the boardroom and be a feminine goddess at home with your masculine man, then you gotta let a man do what makes him feel masculine. Let me repeat that for emphasis …
If we want a man’s man — i.e. confidently masculine — we must let him be masculine by being feminine.
Simple. But not always easy.
Ditch Desperation with Feminine Goddess Practices
We’ve got our poop in a group at work, but outside the office, we can easily become drown-worthy puddles of persistence in trying to track down the dude.
What do I mean?
Well, I mean that while we know how to do our jobs efficiently and effectively — masculine skills, we’ve lost track of how to be gentle and enticing — feminine skills.
We think that we can simply send the guy a memo (read: text message) on what we want and when, and then expect him to step up and deliver. Hello, Bossy Not Babe.
How to Get the Guy Through the Art of Subtle Seduction #JustTheTip
Slow down!
Slow down what, Anna?
Everything! How we talk, how we walk, how we move and how we pace the relationship.
Acting like we’re in a rush physically makes a man feel like he’s intruding on our time. Slowing down our speech and body movements is sexy AF and actually shows off our physicality in a more feminine light.
Not rushing the pace of the relationship lets the man do his manly thing — pursue us.
When we slow down and give men space to chase, they are compelled to want us. Try it.
Avoid Oversharing!
I’m the most guilty of this one! But when we overshare too early, the guy feels like every other guy has been offered the same gift of vulnerability. And if every guy gets to know these things about you, it makes this guy feel less (/not) special.
Men want to feel special with and for you!
Save some special secrets for when you’ve established a more intimate connection, and even if that happens the first steamy night, hold off on spilling your secrets even if you’ve hit the sheets!
Which brings me to…
Avoid Sex Too Soon!
Offering sex, in and of itself, is not a feminine trait! (Again, I’ve been here, done that.)
No matter if you’ve told him, “I’ve never done this before” ― meaning had sex with a guy so early in the game, he won’t believe you. Actions are believable. Words: not so much.
You don’t have to hold off forever, but at least until you know if there are deal breakers, sheesh.
Trust me, if he wants a real relationship, too, and if he likes and respects you, he’ll wait a bit.
If you sleep with him the first night, he consciously or subconsciously thinks you’ve done it before. Refer back to men want to feel special.
What if he thinks I’m a prude, Anna?
As long as you’re in feminine goddess seduction mode — but not a cock tease — then he’ll stick around to find out how that sexual chemistry will translate when he earns his way to the sheets. 😉
Start with these!
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xo AJ
