Even Shy Boss Babes Need to Know How to Flirt with Men Effectively!
As you may know, I used to be super shy, like head-down-make-no-eye-contact-people-are-scary shy, but I’ve learned how to get over shyness and how to flirt with men effectively.
At one time in my adult life I was an intimidatingly successful business woman in a small community.
I only knew that I was “intimidatingly” successful because people would tell me that. Even some of the guys I went out with. Even my eventual husband! Who was, in his own right, extremely successful in the traditional sense of the word. (Big income, local fame etc.)
Many women who are high achievers in their careers come off as intimidating and masculine, which is a major turn-off the to kind of men those women tell me they want.
The thing is that we need to use our masculine traits — directness, efficiency, practicality, productiveness, no-nonsense decision making etc — to do a good job. Incidentally, the most successful Babes also use their feminine side to haul corporate ass.
And guess what?
That’s fan-fricking-tastic! Break the glass ceiling, shatter that oppressive suppression.
But those skills don’t work when trying to win a man’s heart — or other parts.
So, what’s a Girl Boss to do?
How to Flirt with Men When You’re a Glass Ceiling Shatterer
Ladies, in order to know how to flirt with men effectively we’ve got to get into our feminine side.
For some of y’all, this is scarier than being a keynote speaker at the annual corporate event.
Understandable.
We spend some much time in our masculine side that we’re inept at femininity —
- Nurturing ourselves and others
- Understanding our own and others’ emotional needs
- Slowing the F down (in every way)
- Dressing femininely (like it or now, dresses are feminine)
- Flirting — laughing, smiling, head-lowered-extended-intense-(and-damn-uncomfortable-)eye-contact, touching(!)
But, Anna, how do I learn how to flirt with men when I haven’t practiced those skills?
Ok, for one, girl: Congrats! “Practice” and “skills” are masculine words, but they’ll serve you well because you already know how to build skills in the workplace, so it’s no different outside the workplace.
Start with baby steps!
Take the least intimidating feminine trait mentioned above and vow to start practicing it.
Hint: If you practice feminine traits at work — even if you prefer to call them strategic inspirational skills — your employees and teammates will shine brighter, be more productive and be happier. I guarantee it.
So, what are you going to start with? I’d love to know in the comments below!
xo
AJ
Master Flirter 😉
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