Become Attractive From the Inside Out! Interview with Janine Fournier
AJ: How did you become a love coach? Tell us the story!
I have been a boy crazy, hopeful romantic my entire life. With low self esteem in my teen years, this landed me in a violent and controlling relationship which then spiralled into years of self sabotage and frequently attracted and attached myself to unavailable men who had little use for me long term and I pretended to be okay with this.
I blamed men for my problems and blamed unfortunate genetics on my lack of a loving relationship. i.e I felt ugly.
Fast forward many years and many dating downfalls later and I realized that amongst all of the heartache and disappointment, my attitude about it all was the common denominator.
AJ: Ugly Duckling Syndrome – been there! What did you do from there?
I began a journey of serious self-love which included getting really real with myself about who I was and learning to accept myself.
Once I was aligned with my true self, my values and my standards everything changed for me.
I attracted men who respected me, men who were aligned with me, men who didn’t treat me, or others like shit. I rely greatly on my intuition and tune into my values and desires deeply now in my dating life.
Changing my mindset, beliefs and energy changed everything for me and I saw too many women on the same paths of self destruction and knew I had the tools, empathy and resources to help and that is how I got into this business!
AJ: Having walked the path sure does provide empathy. What services do you offer?
I help people through the gut wrenching, breathtaking pain of breakup heartache. Infusing a lot of self love and self care, reclaiming their power and getting real about their true desires as well as detaching energetically from their exes.
I also help single women get aligned with their true self so that they can attract the love life they truly desire, through spiritual and practical tools.
And, I help women break from of toxic dating cycles, self sabotage and cheap love addiction through a step by step program.
AJ: So valuable. What do you think is important to do before a first date, especially for women who suffer from Ugly Duckling Syndrome?
Mindset work!! Talk yourself up, to yourself. Get into a positive frame of mind. List all the things that make you so valuable and desirable. Be clear on what you want to feel, tune into those feelings.
Listen to high vibe music and just get into a place of truly trusting that all is working out for you and no matter what happens this date is just another experience. Don’t put too much pressure on it, flow with it.
AJ: Chill out – Check! What about online dating – Yes or Not-so-much?
Yes! I think there is no shortage of ways you can find someone out there. I find online dating a good way to see that there are many options beyond what meets the eye in your day to day life. You may meet someone in the supermarket, but you also might meet that same person online.
AJ: What do you think is the best dating app or dating site for meeting someone?
I don’t have a preference. I think your energy and your intuition will draw you to the one you feel is best for you. Although, I will say I am not a fan of sites like Plenty of Fish.
AJ: I’m not a huge fan of POF, but what’s your reason?
AJ: Gotcha. Speaking of serious, do you think singles should play “hard to get” if they’re looking for a serious relationship?
No. If you don’t want someone playing games with you, don’t play games with them. You get what you put out there. Be real, be you.
I do think that being too overly available can be less attractive sometimes as I truly believe that having your individual lives is important and healthy in a relationship and being needy of someone else is a turn off.
So making sure you’re not playing any games but that you are living your own life and not blowing off other important things just to see if something else can work out. If someone wants you, they’ll make the effort and time.
AJ: Get a life! Totally agree. So, without playing games, what’s an effective strategy to build attraction, again, especially for those with Ugly Duckling Syndrome?
I believe attraction starts within. Your alignment is your most attractive quality.
People LOVE confidence. It’s sexy as hell. When you know who you are and you own it and don’t question it, people love that shit.
Caring about people is important , but caring less about what people think of you is key. If you love you, you are lovable, it just works!
AJ: True story! What do you love most about helping people?
It is my calling, my passion to help others and the joy for me is in seeing them transcend their perceived limitations, gain immense confidence and feel things they didn’t know they could feel, or unfeel and truly step into who they are meant to be here. Love is the ultimate liberator.
AJ: Any big frustrations working with single women looking for love?
The self-doubt. I work with women so visibly beautiful inside and out who doubt themselves, who question their attractiveness based solely on their looks. We are attractive because of our energy and our self-belief. When people realize that, hallelujah!
AJ: Exactly! I always say that if we’re going to make up stories about ourselves at least make them feel-good stories! Speaking of stories, do you have a funny or inspiring client story?
A client I had who lived in a small town didn’t believe there were any men available for dating near her. She tried online and couldn’t find local. She admitted her self-esteem was rather low.
After a few weeks working on her confidence and beliefs together a guy she had met awhile back contacted her out of the blue to go on a date and they ended up in a committed relationship not long after that!
AJ: Last words of dating advice?
Believe, with all of your beautiful heart and soul, that you are love and you are worthy of attracting all the love you desire. Believe.
AJ: Amen. How can people find you? 
Email: info@janinefournier.com
Facebook: www.facebook.com/1janinefournier
www.janinefournier.com
Thank you!
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AJ Note: Well, what did you think of this interview with Janine? Did her Ugly Duckling story touch you? (I mean, look at her – gorgeous!)
Her story touched me. Been there, done that. What’s one story you’re willing to let go of? Share your story in the comments! And if you’re ready to rewrite that story, contact Janine.
Love IS the answer, people! xo
