Cultural Differences and Dating—Should I Limit Who I Date?
Short answer: No.
Longer answer: Nope.
Though my answer seems pragmatic, dealing with cultural differences and dating (in the Western World) still boils down to the same basics—chemistry, similar values and compatible long-term goals.
Interesting.
Let’s remember that of the long-term, happy couples who I’ve interviewed, most of the women were emotionally or intellectually attracted but not physically attracted to their future husbands. (This is the case for non-married, common-law couples as well.)
Aside from chemistry, values and goals, the biggest influence in the happiness of couples in long-term commune is … attitude.
Of the couples I’ve spoken with, attitude has been the glue even though it is often the woman who adjusted her expectations and used the power of positive persuasion—as opposed to manipulation—to encourage desired behaviours in a husband. (Or dissuade negative ones.)
Be the ripple in your pond.
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Refer back to chemistry, values, goals …
- Chemistry may be instant, or it may take some time getting acquainted before the spark ignites—either happens for all potential romantic partners.
- Values need to align for long-term trust—as happens for all potential romantic partners.
- Goals and plans for the future must be compatible—as happens for all potential romantic partners.
You need to know what your deal breakers and deal makers are. They may be different from someone of a different cultural background … or they may align!
The most important consideration when dealing with cultural differences and dating is communication. Just as it is for all singles getting to know each other.
Dealing with Cultural Differences and Dating Takeaway:
- Whether you’re a Chinese / Indian / Syrian / any immigrant or culturally-affected-offspring—or a shy guy or a reserved gal or simply ultra private—your challenge is to communicate your wants, needs and desires in a respectful, effective way.
Editor’s Note: Both people need to have an open mind about the kind of wants, needs and desires that the other person might have of relationships.
xo AJ