Success in Love is Actually Pretty Darn Simple
Hey, Ladies! I wanted to share this #truestory of success in love (with permission of course) from a gal I met recently who went from a relationship with Narcissist Steve to Groovin’ Gavin.
Rabina wasn’t super experienced with relationships when she met Narcissist Steve so when sparks flew she knew he was “special.” And, oh boy, was he! A total special brand of jerkface.
But let’s skip that heart breaking story and go straight into Rabina’s own words of how she found success in love!
Rabina’s Story
I met him via Tinder and I’m SUPER picky with Tinder. Before him I had only met up with one guy from Tinder — ever.
I swiped on Groovin Gavin because he looked damn good and not in a douche-y way.
Then upon further inspection of this profile, I decided he was a catfish. Reverse image search revealed that one of his pics was a stock photo. Ugh.
AJ Interjection: In case you didn’t know: a “catfish” is a fake profile using some hottie’s photo that grabs attention. You think you found the right fish but you really got a throwback.
Okay, back to Rabina …
So, like I always do with catfishes, I called him out on it and asked, “So why make a fake account?”
Of course he was adamant that that he was real.
He had never been called fake before. I didn’t believe it. So he gave me his snapchat and sent me a face pic. I was suddenly super nervous.
(AJ: Obvi, he was the yummy guy in the pic!)
We had really good banter and he wanted to meet me but I was really hesitant; I get so nervous meeting guys.
I put it off until he asked me on a real date and even then I didn’t give him a straight answer.
Day of the Date
He texted me to see if I was coming [to the event] and I told him (eventually), “Yes but just a heads up, I might not stay out very long.”
He asked if we should move the time up if I was tired and I was honest like, “Nooo, I’m actually just not feeling like being out for a long time.” Basically, I was thinking, “I might leave early ‘cause I might not like you.”
The date went really well and we ended up talking until 1am and he had to leave!
During our initial dating we texted almost constantly but each text would often be hours apart. For both of us.
I didn’t let myself worry about him taking forever to initiate a text or reply to one of mine. I occupied myself with other things, which resulted in me not seeing his texts right away and so texting HIM back hours later, too.
Fast Forward 2 Weeks
We’re cuddling. He asks me what I’m looking for right now and I tell him honestly, “I don’t really know. I’m not really looking for anything. I’d just like to enjoy this and see what happens. You?”
He said he felt the same way.
About a week after that I told him we should be using condoms — WHOOPS! YES, I KNOW! We hadn’t used condoms and that shouldn’t have happened. Especially not knowing if he was sleeping with other people. DON’T DO THAT.
But anyway, I told him, “’cause it’s safer.”
He asked if I thought he was sleeping with other people and I shrugged. He said he wasn’t and then asked if I was.
“That’s a no from me.” I said.
So he said, “We should make it official that we’re exclusive, so that no ones feelings get hurt.”
Then fast forward a couple more weeks, after Thanksgiving.
We’re laying in bed and he asks me, “So, remember when I asked you what you were looking for and you said you didn’t know?”
I’m like, “Yeeeaaa.”
He says, “Do you think you’d want to change your mind? ‘Cause I’d like you to be my girlfriend…”
So of course I said yes! I was growing hella feelings for him.
And just like that, we were now official and it was super adorable.
(AJ: damn straight!!)
I was never looking for a boyfriend and because of that I never put any expectations on him or made him feel pressured to make it official.
I put the ball in his court and was happy to do whatever. In that relaxed, fun and enjoyable atmosphere feelings were able to grow for both of us.
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AJ’s Takeaways From Rabina’s Success in Love Story
- Good guys do exist!
- Always leave them wanting more. #WingmamMotto
- Let them come to you.
- #3 is way easier to do if you have a life and love your life. #LoveLife
- Chill out, relax, stop stressing! #FeelsBetter #SEXY
Ok, so ladies, which one of the above do you struggle with the most? Comment! (Also, consider my WakeUP2Luv GET A BF course. It covers all of the above and waaaayyy more!)
xo AJ
Thanks, Rabina for sharing your success in love story!!
