The Shy Guy’s Key to Finding Love
Technically, this is for everyone, but shy guys will benefit even more because honouring the key to finding love is what builds superhero confidence! Confidence starts with commitment—commitment to ourselves.
Wait, what?
Ok, so you know how I keep talking about superhero confidence because it’s what we all strive for—at least in our imaginations?
Well, let’s face it, realityland shows us over and over and over again that confidence is sexy.
But more importantly, confidence really feels good, especially for those of us who’ve suffered from shyness. Why? Because any level of confidence has come with a Costco-sized crate of courage!
By the way, do you know what’s even sexier than confidence? — Courage!
As many people know, I used to be excruciatingly shy. It was actually physically painful. Social anxiety made me want to cry many times. (And, truthfully, when I got home to my safe place, I did cry.)
But, I got over shyness and insecurity, half on purpose and half by accident. But that’s another story.
The main thing is that the key to finding self-assurance is the same as the key to finding love.
The surprising key to finding love is committing to start loving ourselves “as is, where is” while improving our lives for our own betterment.
The good news, guys, is that we don’t have to be perfectly Jesus Christ Superstar in holy love with ourselves before we can find love. Thank God!
Probably most of us will be on this self-love-learning journey our whole unholy lives. I love myself a lot now *wink wink* but there are still parts of me I love more than other parts. (I don’t mean just physically.)
Learning self-love is a lifelong process. And that’s OK!
With that out of the way, there’s less pressure because no one’s gonna grade us or give us the gears if we slip up and call ourselves “Stupid” in a moment of … well, stupidity.
But that also means we’re responsible for ourselves, where we’re at and where we want to be.
Key To Finding Love Takeaway
When we commit to bettering ourselves and our lives in whatever ways matter and make a difference to us, we’ll find love faster because we’ll feel better about ourselves and our lives. And when we feel good about ourselves and our lives, we automatically exude a sexier vibe. And sexy is, well…sexy!
Key to Finding Love Action Step
- Figure out one area of your life—aside from lacking a companion—that sucks.
- Write down one actionable thing that you can do to start changing that.
- Go do it now. Right now. Like, now now.
xo AJ
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As a natural introvert, this is useful advice. I like that you encourage action too. There are too many guys who learn about how to date but never implement the advice.
Exactly. Knowledge without action is wasted. 🙂