7 Unexpected First Date Tips to Boost Confidence and WOW Her!

Be Confident = Feel Comfortable = Best First Date!

Guest Post by Marianne Foster of OurStart.com

Ok guys, listen up.  I’m writing this article from a woman’s perspective on how to get your confidence up on that first date.   I am offering seven first date tips to boost confidence because when you’re confident you’ll be more relaxed and she’ll feel that.

Here are seven first date tips to boost confidence which will give you a better chance of  your date liking you!

Go To Her Door To Pick Her Up

Your date will most likely appreciate it when you knock on her door like a gentleman instead of waiting outside in your vehicle for her to come out.  Walk right up, knock on the door, and escort her out in style.

This sets an impressive tone for the first date!

Whatever you do, never honk the horn so that she knows you are there.  If you want to go the extra mile, then open the car door for her, wait for her to get in, and then shut it.  Make sure that all of her limbs are in before you shut the door, or this could backfire on you. 😉

When you drop her back off after the date, walk her back to her door. This might be intimidating to you, but it will show your date that you are confident and that you care about her. All this should help your confidence to soar! (And provides an opportunity for a kiss if it seems right!)

Note: If you met her on a dating site or as a blind date, she might not feel safe getting picked up. The best way to handle this is simply to ask her.

Open Doors For Her

When you get to your destination, open every door that you go through for her.  Trust me.  I promise you that ladies like this.

It’s not that we are weak and can’t open doors. It’s the gesture that is important to us.  Just do it and then when she smiles back at you, feel your confidence go up.

Show Up Clean

Make sure to take a shower, comb your hair, and wear clean clothes for that first date.

Though cleanliness is important, make sure that you make a good impression by what you wear. Wear something that you are going to feel confident as well as comfortable in for the evening.

It is statistically proven that you do better in high-stress situations like tests, presentations, and dates if you wear something you feel you look good in.

If you are not sure if you should dress up or not, I always advise dressing nicer than you think you need to. This will definitely make a great impression on your date.

Ask Your Date About Her Day

Make sure to ask your date how her day has been.  If you have any inside knowledge of things important to her then by all means ask about it.  If her poodle just had major surgery, ask how her dog is doing.

Whatever you do, make sure that you don’t monopolize the conversation by trying to brag about yourself.  It’s ok to talk about yourself, but don’t try to overly impress her about how great you are at your job, or how you are the best in all that you do.

Most girls will notice and appreciate a humble spirit more than a haughty one.

As you see her enjoying the conversation and responding well, you should feel better about letting her see the real you and self-disclose.

Introduce Her To Friends That You Run Into

When you are on the first date and run into people that you know, make sure to introduce your date to them right away.  Because you are the one who knows both parties, you should feel confident to do this.

If you don’t introduce her and instead turn your back and make small talk or even worse, laugh out loud without her knowing what you are talking about, I can guarantee your confidence will flatline shortly after.

Your date will quickly pick up on the fact that she wasn’t important enough to be honored with introductions.  A sour date makes for low confidence.

Offer Her Your Coat If It’s Cold Out

It never goes out of style to offer your coat to your date if the weather turns chilly.  Make sure to wear layers of clothing if it’s cold out so that you won’t freeze.

You may even want to plan on this move ahead of time.  When your date is impressed, you will feel good about yourself.

Be Honest

One way to boost your self-confidence is to be honest with yourself and with your date.  Don’t try to be someone who you are not.

The old saying that says, “Those who have nothing to hide, hide nothing,” is still true today.

Be who you are and if your date likes you for that, great! If she doesn’t, then you don’t have to waste any more of your future time.

Your self-confidence will be higher by being yourself instead of trying to be someone who you are not.

Final Thoughts

I’ve gone over some ways for guys to boost their self-confidence on that first date. By doing some of the small things discussed above you should feel confident at the beginning and all the way through to the end of your date.

I wish you the best of luck for all your future first dates!

~ MF

Mariann Foster is a content writer at OurStart.com. OurStart is a lifestyle blog for women in their 20s and 30s. They post content on pregnancy, parenting, relationships, and marriage. When she is not writing, Mariann enjoys homeschooling her daughter and running her alpaca farm.

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AJ Note: What did you think of these first date tips to boost confidence? Do you think doing these subtle yet effective suggestions will help to boost your confidence? I do!

I particularly loved the dress a bit better than necessary for the occasion. I’d say spruce it up by 10-15% above what’s appropriate. More than that might start to feel awkward instead of being a confidence booster.

And, of course, if you haven’t already downloaded my FREE instant confidence cheat sheet, you can get it here: www.wingmam.com/icf

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xo AJ