So Why DON’T Women Accept Accountability in Relationships?
What gives? Why or why don’t women accept accountability or ever think they’re wrong??
Warning: This post is not PC. I’m not apologizing.
There are 5 main reasons why women don’t take responsibility in relationships and — to make it easier to remember — I made sure they all start with an “S!”
So, in answer to a loyal follower of my WingmamTV YouTube channel’s question, here’s my answer…
5 Reasons Why Women Don’t Accept Responsibility in Relationships
- Society (aka social conditioning aka feminism)
- Social media #InstaSlut
- Single mom syndrome — sad, but true
- Survival (yep, basic instinct, but not like the movie)
- SJWs (aka suckers like Steve… Stewart? Sebastian? Whatever name starts with “S.”)
In the video, I delve into how these influences on women and accountability in relationships, as well as the three step strategy men can use to help “the fairer sex” start playing fair!
But you’re probably wondering…
Why on earth should men help women take responsibility?
Haven’t you done enough? Put up with enough? Suffered enough?
Yes, yes, and yes!
But.
Because it’s not gonna happen otherwise, and if we want change then yes, it is we (you) who also must also take responsibility for doing our (/your) part to help fix this situation.
I can’t do it alone and most women don’t even realize their folly.
I need your help to re-inspire women to reconnect with their divine feminine.
Together, we CAN Make A Woman Great Again! (Where’s my damn ball cap?)
So, have a gander…
Which one of the 5 S’s do you think has been the largest influence on women’s attitudes toward not taking responsibility?
Let me know in the comments, I love reading your comments!
xo AJ
Random P.S.
I just made a massively fluffy omelette with bacon and greens. (Kinda Keto though I don’t follow any specific diet… Maybe low carb ish.)
Anyway, total side note here: if you add a bit of heavy cream into the raw eggs before whipping them into a frenzy, your omelette will be totally ‘extra’ in the fluff department… and what man doesn’t want a little ‘extra’ in the ‘fluffing up’ department? 😉
And, even though way too many ladybirds are lacking in culinary skills (myself included), most of the top chefs in the world are still men after all, so if you can whip up a mean meal in the kitchen, your lady just might be ‘extra’ nice in the bedroom! 😉 #JustTheTip
Disclaimer
Anna is not a licenced therapist or psychologist. These are opinions. You are responsible for your own actions. Obey the law wherever you are. If you are considering harming yourself or others, please seek help a-sap.
J’s Q:
Hello Anna. Why is it when men provide and put the work in a relationship woman make excuses and don’t give the same back.
We live in a world of equality , well I hope so but it seems when a woman has a man that does everything in a relationship the woman doesn’t want to work, cook dinner and they get in a bit of a routine with it.
I’m sure if the man just sat at home and didn’t have a job or ambition or goals in life the woman would get fed up and think he has no value to our relationship.
So why do woman think it’s ok to do that. I’d like to hear your views on this. Thank you.
My Reply:
Great question!
We don’t live in a world of equality, but that reality isn’t all bad. Men are physically stronger than women. That allows men to protect women.
I’d like to think we do live in a world of complementary qualities, a world where we can embrace our differences and compensate for where we aren’t built equally.
Despite what it seems like in the modern dating world, women are more naturally nurturing than men. (They suppress it or hide it if they don’t feel safe or if they think being nurturing is somehow bad because it’s considered feminine.)
The reality in all our relationships is: we teach people how to treat us.
What you allow will continue and often get worse. And it’s much tougher to turn a ship around that’s left the port in one direction.
If you do everything in a relationship, you’ve taught her she doesn’t have to do anything.
Men and women think differently, so you can’t expect a woman to think like you do. But you do have to accept the cause and effect of your actions or inactions. i.e. Letting her get away with disrespect in any form.
If you don’t address destructive behaviours as soon as they arise, you help her create a bad habit that turns into a pattern that turns into her personality.
Then you become frustrated by her selfishness and she (subconsciously) disrespects you for allowing it.
You’re not helping her or you.
Waiting too long to address it will often lead to a breakup and she will go on to another relationship with her bad habits, perpetuating a bad cycle and eventually thinking the same sweeping thoughts about “all men” that men think about “all women”…they’re just not worth it.
Good post. I’m a well adjusted, easy going (I don’t sweat the small stuff, and everything is small stuff), financially stable guy. I divorced my first wife, and my second wife passed away. I haven’t dated much since she died. I’m content being a single guy. I would like to be in a great relationship with a woman, but I’d rather stay single than take on a project that needs fixing. I’ve seen so many posts by women asking where all the nice guys are, and I look at their prior man-hating posts and think “we’re staying as far away from you as possible.” Is it too much to ask for a woman to be kind and well adjusted before we approach?
I think it’s ludicrous that you think men need to take responsibility to help women take responsibility for their actions.
This is the insane part in my opinion: “Because it’s not gonna happen otherwise, and if we want change then yes, it is we (you) who also must also take responsibility for doing our (/your) part to help fix this situation.”
Its literally hypocritical because you’re saying that women need to take responsibility but its men’s responsibility (because you wrote “we (you)” and “/your”). Men aren’t the problem. You guys are the problem and you NEED TO TAKE GODDAM RESPONSIBILITY and fix it.
Thanks for your thoughts, Neil.
There are basically two options in life, because we can’t control what others do, only what we do:
1. Accept what is.
2. Do what WE can to change it.
Thanks for your input.
🙂 Anna
You’re basically proving your own article’s point. Women don’t accept accountability!
Yep, I know it’s frustrating! Explaining isn’t condoning, though, and my channel is for men so I give men info on what they can do (if they feel like it). Of course, you don’t have to do anything. I call women out when the opportunity presents itself, but you don’t have to. 🙂
Hello Anna , why is it when men provide and put the work in a relationship woman make excuses and don't give the same back. We live in a world of equality , well I hope so but it seems when a woman has a man that does everything in a relationship the woman doesn't want to work, cook dinner and they get in a bit of a routine with it. I'm sure if the man just sat at home and didn't have a job or ambition or goals in life the woman would get fed up and think he has no value to our relationship. So why do woman think it's ok to do that. I'd like to hear your views on this. Thankyou
For some reason it wouldn’t let me post my reply here so I added your comment and my reply to the end of the blog post. Hope it helps!
I understand your point of view…it’s frustrating for everyone involve and it’s likely driven by lack of trust and contempt by both individuals.
Thank you Anna for this. At least you make sense of these situations. I understand what you mean. I am not bitter to the extent of not accepting some helpful advice. I appreciate you.
Thank you so much for this mature and dare I say, masculinity-based, comment! So glad you get it. That makes me happy! :))
I know many women who are fully capable of taking responsibility of their actions and I therefore they deserve my respect. By saying “it is your responsibility to help me take responsibility of my actions” you actually say that you should not take responsibility at all. If you fail to take responsibility it is somehow man´s fault and never yours. You sound like somebody with cluster B personality disorder. People with BPD, NPD or ASPD are very good at avoiding taking responsibility of their actions and this is, in fact, one of the most important signs of such disorders. Please guys, do not take this blog post too seriously. Women who are emotionally healthy are capable of taking responsibility of their mistakes. And these women really exist. Unfortunately most of them are already married and stay married because their relationship and conflict solving skills are very good. Therefore their divorce/break up rates are much lower than people with attachment or personality issues. Please do not become a caretaker of unstable/immature/personality disordered woman. You are just wasting your time.
Miguel. Thank you. I spent my years 15-48 with a woman who accepted no responsibility for her creations whatsoever. We divorced, and since, I’ve only found the same. As far as I can tell, all women need me to accept all of her rage and blame and own everything before she will even own a little bit. And only what she wants. It feels incredibly manipulative and childish, and I’ve endured it long enough. It’s not just frustrating, it’s abusive. And so far mint one of them is the least bit shy about it.
Today I searched looking for maybe some evidence somewhere there is a woman worth her weight in gold, you know, a woman who is mature enough to recognize, and accept what she’s done or influenced, and has the maturity to take that upon herself without prompting, and work to make it right. Like men learn to do, if we want to be successful with other men. I may not have met one closely or intimately enough to have experienced it, but I’m glad to hear they do exist.
There are women who claim to accept responsibility and hold themselves accountable. However, it's merely on paper. When real-life conflicts arise, the first thing they do is blame you. If you hold them accountable, you are accused of mansplaining. They strive to have the last word, so responding with logic results in them abruptly ending the conversation. It's a very immature behavior.
Agreed. Hold them accountable anyway.
All true. I am a gay man and experience this with my female friends.
I agree wholeheartedly. However, I got major push back for trying to help her understand. I just created a new issue. Instead of listening to what’s important, she becomes defensive. “I don’t like being talked to like I’m a child”
It’s has to be fixed within.
There’s no growth without self improvement.
Thank you for your feedback! Yes, it’s a very delicate issue. I may do a video on how to initiate discussion / handle conflict in a relationship. There’s no perfect way because, as you mention, our triggers come from within and even the perfect delivery may not be well received. Know that if your delivery was respectful (and she’s halfway mature) you’ve planted the seed for her to consider making changes. Hope you’re subscribed so you get the notification for when create the video (or blog). 🙂
Exactly what happened to me…she even accused me of narcissism!…as she herself was being narcissistic! I have given up on her as my ex-wife and mother to our only son…makes me sad for her.
Excellent point Jay. And as you may be completely aware at this point, you are hardly an exception to the rule in this regard. "Narcissist" is the new "abusive" is the new "misogynist" and so on. Just add it to the list of words like "racist" and "hate" that carry no weight anymore as the loons continue bastardizing our language. Social media is poxed with female "health" and divorce coaches, new age cults, and various other con artists doing their part to profit from the gullible by telling them that they are victims while peddling false empowerment….for a fee, of course.
I only wish that men would go on a dating/relationship strike until women wise up and let go of these negative traits. Unfortunately too many men will do anything for a date/sex and women know it. I refused to put up with such nonsense and have been left dateless and told by women that I have “put up with it because its dating and they’re women”. Sad but true…
I agree. And since you have no control of what other men do, you can only do what you can do. Never react with bitterness, women don’t respond well to that (even quality, worthwhile women). Instead, set your standards respectfully but firmly.
Example if she cancels a date or is wishy-washy, “Ashley, you’re a beautiful woman and I’d like to take you out on an amazing date so when you know your schedule and can commit to a time, let me know. x”
If she doesn’t respond favourable … NEXT.
I have done that many times. Politely, firmly, respectfully and without bitterness etc, I still get the same ";…it's dating…it's what women do…" I have been following your advice, and have openly "nexted" But I feel that I am not getting anywhere.
I haven’t been on a date in 16 years. I hope it ends soon and I find the right one. So I’m the guy who went on a strike
I hope by watching my videos it’ll help you meet the kind of woman you’d be willing to end your strike for! 🙂
I definite appreciate your message and it does resonate with me as I’m come to the same conclusions myself.
You are 100% right in regards to not rewarding bad behavior. It’s essentially operant conditioning in the most basic sense. However, the duplicity of woman is they are often in directly conflict with simultaneously opposing view points.
For example, woman will say, “I know you don’t love me”. That statement creates a scenario where there is no correct response or answer. So if the man agrees, she becomes the validated victim. If the man disagrees, she becomes the judge of she considers to be acceptable in terms in the relationship moving forward.
Essentially there is no way for her to be punished or accountable because a logical man doesn’t indulge such mentally manipulative gymnastics. A double blind situation like this sets up a power vacuum where the male cannot win. Her cognitive dissonance will not allow her to accept responsibility because she already ‘knows’ the solutions to her problems and it doesn’t involve input from him.
Another issue you haven’t address is hypergamy and biological imperatives. Biological imperatives instruct her to find and test a male suitable from reproduction. Establish communication on an emotional level because men use intimacy to gain sex. A woman uses sex to gain intimacy.
From that point, she begins extracting her needs where it’s sperm for procreation or financial resources for stability. It doesn’t really matter. She’s already leverage the relationship to her advantage. The male mentality is to surrender by maintaining the emotionally intimate bridge to continue to gain sexual and emotional fulfillment. He’s invested hook line and sinker.
This where the relationship for the man begins to fall apart because he’s compromised mentally, emotionally, financially, and sexually. If children are present, he’s the third or forth priority. In his mind, he’s the number one. As you can see, the power dynamic has greatly changed because his strength lies outside of the emotional, intimate, and mental spectrum of the relationship.
He doesn’t know that she essentially owns the things he places the highest value upon in the relationship. He believes himself to be a ‘sensitive’ provider who shoulders the responsibility of her safety and willing surrenders control to the woman.
At that point in the relationship, she is high up on his mental trophy wall of accomplishments which society place his dictated his value you upon. But he is just indulging in a noble lie. The woman’s drive for self determination begins to kick in because is her slave. She cannot respect someone who carters to her every need and whim because she never really place that much value on him to begin with.
Once again her biological imperative will kick in. Selfishness and the desire for self determination is now in the drivers seat because in her mind, his value is in decline. She cannot and will not be the mother figure to someone so subservient, weak, and easily manipulated. There is no safety or excitement in that type of survival.
Once she’s extracted all of the resources she can. She’ll leave the relationship as she has been planning to do for years by continuously devaluing him. He’ll be a statistical blindside broken man who’ll spend years wonder what he did wrong because he was a nice guy who put her into a position of power she never rightfully earned.
I agree. Hopefully, you’re subscribed to my blog or YouTube channel so you’ll be notified when I release my video on How Women Manipulate Men.
Hypergamy playlist is here.
Why She Tests You playlist
When She Pulls Away playlist
(All Wingmam playlists)
Its called Narcissistic Personality Disorder. What you just described was called the Push-Pull game or “Value-Devalue cycle.” Society being manipulated by a bunch of racist gynocentric slaves (who consider themselves high value) tries to hide the fact that women are the true narcissists.
I’ve ussed this my entire life and it works very well you have to tell women who are angry or sad about what’s happened to them in past or whatever is in their head its simple its not my job to make you happy its my job to make me happy its your job to make yourself happy than possibly we can enjoy our happiness together noone can make anyone else truly happy you can only enjoy happiness together if both parties are happy people stop blaming the right guy for what the wrong guy did you choose the wrong guy in past future guy has nothing to do with your own mistakes but I’ve found in my life a large number of women blaming all men for their poor mistakes,a bouncer,singer,playboy,womanizer, stripper ,aka,badboy was your mistake not ours ,men would never try to make a stripper,a girlfriend and seriously I’ve never understood why women act like they’ve been hit by a truck when they decided to date a piece of shit its your mistakes that make you sad and angry stop listening to Hollywood, TV prototypes of men open your eyes if it looks like a duck walks like a duck its a duck ,if you don’t understand what I’m saying let me be clear if he looks like a stud or player he’ll never really love you he loves himself more trust these words ,you know what a goodman looks and acts like there’s a good chance he actually buys you dinner or takes you to a show opens doors ,priorities to protect you and care for you if he doesn’t have these qualities he’s the duck
Absolutely true! And it works in the reverse to for men who keep choosing loser women. At some point we have to stop and realize we are the common denominator.
Thanks for the comment! 🙂
“Loser women” are far more difficult to identify.
The real bad apples definitely try to hide their flaws. Watch some of the videos in my red flags playlist and they’ll be easier to spot. 🙂
Actually, they CAN be identified. Just go to any online dating site. You'll find plenty of them, and you won't have to look very hard.
I concur! Why is it MY problem for your inability to be held accountable? I see this with my sister and mother where they try to pin it on me but very rarely pin it on themselves. It takes a lot to admit when you are wrong and need it…but so often it is easier to deflect.
You’re the one that stands there and takes all of the female hypocrisy. Women know what they are doing. Its not “female nature” its wickedness. And as long as you keep accepting their bad behavior and letting it influence you they will keep doing it. If a woman does something like that you warn her once; she does it again you cut her out of your life and don’t look back.
Agreed. Everyone deserves a second chance if they’ve been schooled. After that, next!
I've had to cut two women out of my life for their persistently bad behaviour. One was my now ex-wife, and another was a woman who I met and lived with many years after my divorce.
Since women like them cannot or will not accept any accountability whatsoever, your only option is to walk away. At least with my divorce, I got away pretty cleanly and didn't have to make support payments or child support payments.
Good for you for not rewarding bad behavior by staying! And glad you got away clean in your divorce!
Those 5 ‘S’s definitely seem like factors, but how do we connect causal factors to behaviors ?
Excellent question! One that might require a long discussion but the short (vague) answer is we are all influenced by our experiences and societal influences. Since we only have limited control of the former and little control of the latter, all we can do is what we can do. Be the ripple in the pond. Cause –> Effect. Probably not a satisfying answer, but it’s what I’ve got! Thanks for a great question, perhaps others will see this and add to the convo. 🙂
Thank you for this article, was enlightening, wish there was more we could do than coddle women, but I know logical conversation doesn’t seem to work, maybe treating them the way you suggest will yield higher success but it just feels like why put so much effort into making a relationship successful when they do so little, I guess theres not much of an alternative just feels like if i wanted a child id have one, i dont want a partner i have to baby her whole life
I found your website by asking, Why are women defective? You answered my question by saying, Just because. This is very liberating, because it releases me of the feeling of responsibility I have always had to take care of women and to take care of them.. Now, I can relate to them like the puppy dogs that they are. Just be nice, take what you need, and leave when things go wrong. Like a no fault divorce or a car accident. No muss, no fuss. All you have to do is make sure that whatever happens, you acted like a gentleman and didn’t do anything wrong intentionally. Most importantly, keep your expectations low, or you will probably be disappointed.
Frustrating, I know! (And I’m a woman.) But it’s not just because. It’s because we (all) let them get away with it. But you’re right, if you have low expectations you won’t be disappointed, just make sure you don’t carry bitterness with you or even low expectations won’t be met. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, reading my blog and watching my videos!
I just read an article about how women are whining for student debt to be canceled. I wondered why only now are they asking for student debt to be canceled. Then I looked up how women hold most of the student debt. So essentially its another way for women to get something for nothing. When men went to college they accepted the cost of going. They paid their way. When women go to school for numerous years they try to mooch off of society and get unfair advantages; in other words a FREE education paid for by the taxpayers.
Yep, if they want equality, they can pay their own debts, too.
A generally okay but a rather non nuance measure I would suggest Andrew Graces channel as well as books on evolutionary psychology
Tough to get a book’s worth in a short vlog, for sure. Thanks for reading and for the recommendations 🙂
This ultimately suggest that women have No true Agency. Either they are too narcissistic too solipcistic to ever be wrong or too childish to ever make a correct decisions
This ultimately follows a logical boiling point. Women can't ever accept they are wrong ergo a woman will always eventually make a wrong choice and nothing will budge her away from it even if she's unhappy with it thus women can never be truly happy. Ergo men should not try and ultimately give them no choice because they will never be able to make a choice that brings the happiness or honor and eventually ruin not only their own lives but those around it.
Boiling down it means feminism and any chance of equality its ultimately a Lie
It is no wonder how politics is seen today it does make a Lot of sense but it also means a Lot of Religions from christianity to bhudism which said women are generally more evil and likely to end up in hell (Yes both jesus and bhuddah said this)
It makes a lot of men who genuinely threw their lives away for women or out of respect for them look down with sadness and shame with such disgust toward women that they were ultimately the bulwarks against the abuse of women that they won't just allow it but grimly support it with that terrible pain of regret of wasting their time protecting them all the good men will walk away and leave women with the bad men that will happily [abuse] them
Correct. Knowledge is potential power. Just because we don’t like the truth doesn’t make it less true. Proceed accordingly.
Without accountability feminism is a falsity. We cannot have even a sense of equality if women can simply lie and accuse men of things that are not in their nature or character. This literally proves a lot of religions from christianity to bhudism as true given they said most women go Down as more evil than men due to karma and ect. The fact women can basically start a war without ever being held in court pretty much shows most men are can't commit the same level of sin as they often get away with due to looks or decorum
And unfortunately, unless all who know better (whether man or woman) hold women accountable, nothing will change… or rather it will but not for the better. 🙁
you're full of shit. sell whatever feelgood marketables you want, the truth is still the truth., your side is the problem. it's not the victims responsibility to make sure the abuser doesn't abuse you. it's the victims responsibility to get out as soon as possible and avoid future abusers while learning to seek and appreciate non abusers. there are not enough good women to go around, most of us are settling for dogshit and the guys who aren't are straight up hitting a freak accident lottery.
people need more chaos and suffering to wake them up, women particularly. when technology starts replacing women, artificial wombs, sex robots, then evolutionary pressure will start to push on them again. it comes down to there is no pressure on them to change when they hold all the power. women hold all the power in gender relations, they have literally the power of life and death over a man on a genetic level. the best a man can do is bat low enough that she'll see him as irreplacable and then make his demands from there, but most men don't have that kind of leverage because they have no money and are not pathological either. when women aren't in a unilateral seller's market, then their product will have to improve or no one will buy it. it's like expecting a water company who has monopoly to give a shit about the quality of the water in the middle of the desert when there is a permanent overflow line begging for water. once men don't need women anymore, once they can live sexually fulfilled lives as well as have children without them, then you'll suddenly start to see women become vastly improved, because they will have to compete with things designed to replace the old order of women. loser women will have to settle for sperm donars and ivf that costs a ton of money, or accept absolute loser doners who have to lower themselves to be with her for a night. otherwise they actually going to have to be pleasant to be around as well as be pleasant to look at for men who don't need them anymore for anything to be interested.
I understand your frustration, and while I agree with much of what you’ve said (which either means I’m not full of BS or we both are), here’s my question:
Which company changes quicker?
1. The one with no feedback from its customers.
2. The one receiving feedback from its customers.
It’s not the customer’s responsibility but it is in their best interest if they want to expect change faster.
Thank you for caring enough to share your thoughts. 🙂
Neither changes. Only the ones near bankruptcy do.
Most companies do not care to change when they are on the green. Their reasoning is simple and flawed. Why would they, the results show they are doing a good job.
Then feedback slows down. Results slow down as well.
It's only when they are on the red that they look around for feedback to find none as consumers moved elsewhere and no longer show the love or care that they once did. They felt it was misplaced and decided to place those feelings on another company which will hopefully acknowledge them.
With that in mind, if we strictly limit to those options on your post above we can then extrapolate that, unlike what most people suspect (and I suspect you as well), the company without feedback changes faster because its cycle it's closer to bankruptcy.
As such, providing no feedback and let them fail on their own will force the change to happen faster.
To that extent, I wouldn't say "you're full of s***" like the person earlier but that your knowledge on the matter is biased (even if you try not to) and insufficient to matter.
At some point you have to cut your losses and move on, the longer we try to accommodate the longer it perpetuates the problem.
Thanks for your comment! I’m definitely biased because I’ve seen complete turnarounds from women who were called out. Example: A man I’ve known for decades met a woman who was really sexy but dressed too trampy for his taste. When he told her, she freaked out (no surprise) and stormed off. (Typical, right?) Anyway, he not only told her her dress was unacceptable but her attitude was as well. If she wanted to be with him he’d need to see an immediate and permanent change on both those things. She was mad for awhile (I knew her, too) but had some decent and honest friends who agreed with the guy. She smartened up. He was kind but always put his foot down when it mattered. They were together a long time (until she died). Hate to say it but the whole “teach people how to treat us” is like training a dog. It takes effort but the alternative is either not having a dog (which is fine) or having a misbehaving dog (which is not fine). I share this example because of it’s longevity, but I’ve seen it many times. The women don’t always smarten up, no loss, but some do. But there’s no requirement to do anything you don’t want to, so do what feels right for you (within the law, of course
Or just find another company. Again it’s not our job to fix you. We can just replace what is broken.
I am divorced as well, after 36 years. I am in no way perfect or infallible and I have no problem manning up to my mistakes and personality issues. My ex-wife was/is incapable of accepting wrong doing…ever. I finally had to break all contact with her, as I was her to go person for every problem she has gotten herself in driven by her selfishness at all cost attitude. My experience with her has taught me that I should not trust or approach any other woman just because I don’t see the need to place myself under the “Guess what I feel, think, want, need, expect and demand game” they all tend to play.
They refuse responsibility for anything, not just relationships. It is innate in their nature.
Agreed. And even though it’s our nature it can be modified at will if a woman is interested in doing so. Just like a man’s nature is to procreate, most can control themselves. Nature can be malleable.
As has been said, men actually greatly respect a woman for taking ownership of her stuff. If only more women knew this, they'd have infinitely better relationships.
I believe part of the issue with not taking accountability for issues or mistakes is one of identity. I see this in my mother as an example. To admit ownership of a mistake is to admit that at times you haven't acted well and hence are flawed like we all are. When the identity you've spent decades building, one of the perfect mother, spouse, friend & someone who is always lovely, is called in question by wrongdoing, most will go to any length to protect that identity from crumbling. Obviously this includes denying that you're anything other than perfect. If there's a problem, you couldn't possibly be responsible in any way.
Exactly true! It can make it easier to empathize when we consider where their need to be perfect came from. That’s not to say we don’t still address unsavory behaviors but compassion helps us do so with less angst. (And often more effectiveness.)
I strongly agree, that in relationships, accountability is a crucial element that fosters trust, growth, and mutual understanding. While it's a common stereotype that women may shy away from accepting accountability, it's essential to recognize that accountability is a trait that transcends gender. Both men and women can struggle with taking responsibility in relationships. In my own experience, I've seen instances where individuals, regardless of gender, may find it challenging to accept accountability due to fear of confrontation or insecurity. However, I believe that empowerment lies in acknowledging our mistakes, learning from them, and working towards being better partners. By taking ownership of our actions, we can create a more open and honest connection with our significant others, fostering a healthier and more fulfilling relationship.