When it comes to matters of the heart rejection sucks, and is inevitable, so let’s learn how to handle rejection like a stormtrooper!
If you can handle rejection like the trooper you are you’ll be able to look at rejection as a welcome challenge.
When I was but a wee insecure teenage fledgling, I got rejected a few times by guys I thought were “like, for sure, my true love and, like, soulmate!” *dramatic sigh*
I’m pretty sure I didn’t even know one of their last names. It must’ve been, like, just awful.
I write “must’ve” because since I learned how to handle rejection I can’t remember how the awful part of it felt.
But before I got to that empowered stance, I chose an unhealthy path…
After failing to hogtie any of the early rejectors, I learned how to “get” guys—the wrong guys (for me), but still, it seemed like progress at the time.
Instead of learning how to handle rejection, I avoided rejection totally.
I only sought out men I knew wouldn’t reject or ditch me.
But look where that got me!
In case you didn’t read my memoir and don’t know where that got me: it got me cuckoo with a side of heartache. (And single for a long time.)
The interesting bit is when I went into real estate sales, at the tender age of 20, I loooved rejection.
Ok, maybe not my first day.
Fiiiine, definitely not my first day, my first day was terrible, but after a day of rejections I learned how to handle rejection.
Whether it was a residual cuckoo effect or it was because I made a game of getting rejected, I used all those real estate “nos” to hone my sales skills and try new communication techniques and turned my “no” woes into WOWs.
My “Handle Rejection” Mantra: Every “no” is closer to a “yes!”
This is the awesome possum attitude that helped propel me to becoming Anna J, Super Star Realty Lady. (See memoir.)
Real estate managers and brokers tell salespeople every day, “Don’t take it personally.”
I say, “Bullshit. Do take it personally!”
If you’re not effectively communicating how you can help someone—the client—achieve their goals—to buy a home or to sell a home—it is you.
But in the dating world, you’re not looking for quantity, you’re looking for quality.
And if you’re on this website, you also believe that what you’re looking for adds up to one.
When you retrain your brains to think of rejection as “one step closer to your right yes,” you build up the stamina to sustain your self-esteem throughout the rejections that lead to your goal: The Right One.
AJ Heartache Prevention RX: Be yourself.
If you want your potential partner to be their best self, you’d better be your best (real) self.
Plus, who wants to “forever after” fake a role? (Been there, dumb that.)
They’re resilient mofos that never give up.
(They also serve the dark side, but don’t do that.)
To figure out what your best real self really is invest in my WakeUP2Luv program.
Hint: If you do the homework, your life will be all around better and you’ll be ready for the woman you really want.
Anna, did you just say homework??
Yep, sorry, suck it up.
Progress requires effort. (That’s how I got to be Super Star Realty Lady!)
If you always do what you’ve always done you’ll always get what you’ve always got!
WakeUP2Luv provides the step-by-step how-to’s so you don’t even have to figure out what to do next.
Do it, Stormtrooperrr.
Vancouver dating coach for men who love women! ❤️ (Not PC and not a feminist.)