Review of Kevin Samuels’ Video: “You’re Average at Best”
This one was really fun to watch because in this video, “You’re Average at Best” Kevin interviews a woman live on camera and boy does he school her.
Kevin is an image consultant and YouTube creator with a wide range of topics from men’s fashion to men’s and women’s self-improvement and relationship building.
Let’s get right into it…
Sorry to Break It To You, Lady, But “You’re Average at Best”
The theme for his live is supposed to be “disagreement day” for people who disagree with him and this lady calls in with a personal question.
In other words, instead of paying for a private session, she tries to highjack his podcast for a freebie.
And he lets her do this so he can use it as a “teaching lesson.”
Ooh la la!
So, she’s a small business owner and wants to know when to reveal that to a man she’s dating.
She literally said this, fellas—“When I date down…” and, she goes on to say, “I want to give guys who are not on my level a chance…”
Wow, right?
In fairness, even though she seems to have a condescending attitude, she doesn’t seem like a bitter Karen.
“Dating Down??”
I’m all for self-esteem and being a high value person, man or woman, but there does feel like an unjustified level of arrogance.
Kevin cuts her off at the pass saying, “Hold on here, what do you mean ‘not on your level?’”
And I’m thinking, “Zactly!”
So, she replies saying she wants a man who’s making six figures or more.
Kevin is straight forward but respectful. He says, “The men you want are not asking you out.”
Then he delivers this doozy…
Basically, women will consider these guys who they think are below them and then want to know how to fix them.
But, “Why can’t you get a guy on your level?”
Bam!
He reminds her of why she came on a show that’s not about the scheduled topic.
He says, “That’s selfish.”
I agree!
But she wants what she wants and doesn’t care about what that means for others.
She does apologize. I’ll give her that credit.
Though, she’s on a live show, it would look really bad if she didn’t. But I’ll still give her the credit because a real Karen would’ve just gone off the rails.
She’s 35 and her previous relationship lasted a year.
Kevin asks her why she wants “a six-figure guy” and I have to say I respect her answer.
She basically says she’s been in business for nine years and is into ambition and self-development and wants the same from her man.
This isn’t just about income, though that’s certainly part of it and this doesn’t necessarily make a woman a gold digger.
Whaaaat?
A gold digger wants the fruits of your labour.
This lady wants to share the fruits of her labour with the fruits of a man who’s also laboured for success.
Hear me out and then we’ll see what Kevin thinks, he has a brilliant answer.
My Thoughts
If a woman is making bank, she’s got a certain type of lifestyle she’s accustom to and if her partner isn’t financially capable of living beside her in that lifestyle, either she’s going to have to adjust her standards or carry him.
Example
If she likes five star resorts (and can afford them) and he’s on a motel 6 budget, she’ll have to cough up the difference.
That means she’s going to have to sacrifice somewhere else.
“Yeah, but Anna, women do that to men all the time!”
Yep, you’re right!
Men have been ponying up for women for a long time, and if that bothers you then you shouldn’t do it.
But what often happens in the situation of a woman having more financial means is a man feeling less masculine.
Whether it’s nature or nurture, that’s still a reality, except for some Gen Zs and die hard feminists, whether man or a woman.
She may not want to pick up the financial slack.
Ultimately, this situation often boils down to a difference in values.
So, let’s get back to Kevin.
He asks her how many men are in the six figure category and she thinks maybe 5%.
He says it’s more like 10% but here’s the kicker…
He says, “So all women want the 10% but what do those men want?”
Boom!
I 100% agree!
This is why I spend so much time trying to give you tips on how to be the type of man all women want.
If you’ve watched my channel for awhile or taken my WakeUP2Luv program, you’ll know that finances are just one metric women look for and it’s not always about how much you have or make.
It’s about how financially safe she feels with you including financial resourcefulness and responsibility.
Ok, let’s get back to their conversation.
So she answers the question of what the 10% men want, which she says is basically looks and brains.
Then he asks her if she wants to be married or have kids.
She reveals she does want to be married and have kids and she already has a 13 year old son.
Kevin says, “Men who make the kind of money you want have options and they typically don’t want the kind of women who have [kids].”
I agree.
It’s rare that a man making bank puts down on his must-have list: single mom.
Now, she does say she wants to improve herself, so that’s good, and that she feels she has a lot to offer those type of men.
She might, but those men still have a lot more options than she does.
Men don’t put as much value in a woman making bank as women do of men. Men place more value on other qualities.
Back to Kevin…
Kevin reminds her, “I cannot change men. I’m not a miracle worker. You want them, they don’t want you.”
#toughlove
She keeps going back to talking about how she’s been working on herself.
Essentially, she’s not getting that her value isn’t as high as she thinks it is for the kind of guy she wants.
Kevin asks her again, “Why would a man who’s in the top 10% want a woman with a kid and his sketchy father in the picture?”
He goes on to say, “If you had a son who was making that kind of money, would you want him to come home with a woman with a 13 year old son when he could have a younger woman with no kids?”
But she just keeps arguing about her value. She’s having some serious cognitive dissonance on the issue because she doesn’t want to face reality.
On a side note!
I do know a hard working successful single mom who met a six-figure guy when her son was 16 and they’re still together three years later but she treats him like a king and does not act entitled like the woman in this video.
Kevin says, “You should want the best for your son.”
Of course, she thinks she’s the exception to the rule.
He says, “You ladies all feel like you’re the exception to the rule.”
I gotta say, he’s direct but respectful and I also give her credit for receiving his feedback without getting emotional.
Then she says 20-something women aren’t attracted to 45 year olds.
He says, “Bullshit.”
I say, “I agree.”
Many are! And regardless, men in the 10% category can get attractive, successful women in their 30s and 40s without kids.
Hard truths, I know.
Kevin says, “He’s 51 and can’t beat ‘em off with a stick.”
He asks her to rate herself without using 7.
She’s honest and gives herself a 5-6 rating.
I have to say, he’s leading her down the path from entitlement to enlightenment quite brilliantly!
So, he drives the point home again. Here she is, an average looking single mom wanting the top 10% of men, who can basically have whoever they want.
She’s not getting it because she doesn’t like the answer.
Kevin says, “You don’t qualify for one…women like you die alone. You think you’re better than the men you qualify for.”
Mic drop!
Gentlemen, the good news is your options expand as you improve yourself and your age doesn’t matter.
If you want to know what areas to improve and what to start with first without compromising yourself, you need to get my WakeUP2Luv program.
Back to the Interview…
At this point, she gets distracted by her phone a lot, which is totally rude, but he ignores it.
He says, “Average people get average people.”
He asks her what she thinks she has to offer.
She lists a few things—help him with his business, self-improvement, gardening—none of which are things the kind of men she wants put much value in, which he tells her.
I agree.
So she asks him what men do want and he tells her to book a session and then ends the call.
It took 20 minutes to get her to this point.
Hopefully, she’ll do some homework on what men really want and work on providing what she can and adjust her standards where she falls short.
Focus on You!
Again, fellas, if you want the best chance of getting the best woman, ask yourself what the kind of woman you want wants.
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