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AJ: I met up with a girl friend today and we were talking about men and height — the man she’s chasing right now is the same height as her — and she noted that if a guy is super confident in himself she doesn’t even notice, but if he’s not, like if he’s insecure or tries to brag to “make up for his height” then that’s when she notices the height and it’s his actions and insecurity that are a big the turn off.
Gotta get to that place of alpha masculinity and feel grounded with who you are!
Here's a video I did for you on the topic: Why Women Like Tall Guys
AJ: Again, women go for confidence, certainty, self-assurance, decisiveness and all those masculine qualities. It happens that a lot more men with money have those qualities. Feminine women will always choose men with masculine qualities over men with feminine qualities (those who lack the above qualities) even if they have to take a jerk to get those qualities.
Best solution is to develop as many masculine qualities as you can without becoming a jerk and you'll get the best quality girl. Because even though ALL women are built to go for masculinity, only the ones who are emotionally messed up will stay with a jerk - and trust me, hun, you do not want those chicks, anyway!
Here's a video I did that sort of covers this topic (be sure to subscribe to WingmamTV to get all my videos!): How to Get a GF When You Don't Have Anything to Offer
AJ: What's more difficult to find: a job or the love of your life? Def definitely find love at work if you're not finding outside of work, but be careful because if HR says no dating on the job then you could be out of work and that's not sexy.
You've got to play it a bit more casual than if you met through a dating site or app or on the street where you know that if she says yes to getting together it's because there's interest / attraction and everyone knows it's not about being friends.
Work is different unless you know for damn sure that she's hot for you. Solution: friend zone yourself until you know for sure, then ramp up the sexual tension. Keep your job, get the girl.
Here's a video I did on this topic: Should You Date a Co-worker?
AJ: Dear Acting Like a PUA,
1. Hell, yes!
2. You have the perfect opportunity to play a role (PUA!) while promoting your play!
3. You can take one of two approaches:
First, go over the top obvious cheesy cheeserson. If you go this route, you can even joke that you're "working on a new play about a PUA" *wink* (You're welcome.)
Second, go super subtle. Like so subtle that she might even think you really are just promoting your project, but at the end if she seems even a little bit keen you could say, "You're the kind of girl I'd really like to see in the audience *laugh, grin* but you're probably a busy lady, I should probably get your number to remind you, wouldn't you agree?" *wink*
In either case, you have to be, or at least act, very confident and self-assured, assume she wants wants you!
You're an actor, you got this.
AJ: Dear Shoeman,
What we choose to put on our feet reveals a lot about our character! For example, does a guy in the gy wear the newest Nike or does he have trainers from a few seasons ago? Does the guy in the grocery store wear runners or tasselled loafers?
A guy who wears the newest shoes to the gym might show that he's any combo of vain, super into health & fitness, or wears through runners quickly.
A guy who wears runners to the grocery store might be relaxed or he might be lazy. Women are always trying to gauge the personality of a guy based on his choice in footwear (as well as the rest of his fashion sense or lack thereof).
There's no wrong answer to what you put on your feet except that your choice should be in good repair; no woman wants a man who's a slob or lazy or dirt poor. Sorry.
Older shoes can still be well-maintained. Remove scuff marks from leather & suede, wash or replace runners when they start to fall apart or smell to high heaven.
Footwear doesn't have to be expensive! But how we take care of what's on our feet is a pretty good indication of the type of person we are and how we view life.
Keep your footwear in good repair and you'll be a shoe in for the right lady!
AJ: Dear Country Man,
The answer is simple: Fear.
Sadly, 97% of all rape victims reported are women. Women are scared to walk down a city (or town) street after dark because of potential risk to their physical safety, so going off into the bushes or back country to work amongst a majority of potentially horny (and assuredly stronger with plenty of testosterone) men sends innate warning signals through our bodies.
Plus, physical labour is hard, man.