Before we get into high maintenance vs high standard, there are a few questions you need to ask yourself.
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Okay, now let’s look at high maintenance vs high standards when it comes to women.
High maintenance comes from a shallow place of insecurity, selfishness and entitlement.
High standards comes from a place of high self esteem based on morals, values and an ability to satisfy our needs by our own means.
In both cases, whether high maintenance or high standards, the woman may require more effort than someone who is low maintenance.
The key is whether or not she’s worth it!
Then we’ve got high value vs low maintenance. The former is ideal; the latter can be a red flag!
A woman’s intentions, attitude and actions help you determine if she’s high maintenance vs high standards in her needs.
High maintenance women need you to text or call all the time. Insecure, controlling.
High standard woman will ask you to reply within a reasonable time. Respect expected.
And high value and low maintenance woman makes no demands and simply accepts you’ll contact her when you want to but replies in a reasonable time reciprocates standards.
High maintenance women demand to know where you are and who you’re with at all times. Controlling, insecure.
A high standards woman requests to know where you are and who you’re with IF you’ll be out later than is usual in your relationship.
And a high value and low maintenance woman says, “Have a great time tonight!” And leaves a snack and love note on the counter for you when you get home if you live together.
Key point: You’ve earned this kind of trust by—wait for it—offering details of where, when and who you’ll be with in advance without having been asked.
Or… you’ve come home early in the past or gone to your own home early in the past and sent a text saying you’re beat, home safe and had a great time but missed her!
Key point on the key point: You don’t stop going out because you miss her!
Autonomy is sexy! And perceived potential competition keeps her wanting you!
High maintenance women will order a meal with specific and inconvenient alterations simply because she can.
Often she’ll act snooty about it and complain about the options.
Whereas a woman with high standards may make adjustments to her meal, either because she has food intolerances or simply preferences, but is apologetic about the inconvenience.
A high value gal may make adjustments but apologizes and leaves a big tip, while a low maintenance woman will simply order from whatever options are available without substitutions or complaint.
Low maintenance gals will take anything they get and be content.
If she’s high maintenance, she’ll expect expensive, fancy or popular restaurants out of her budget and expect you to pay. She might even say thanks, sometimes.
But a lady with high standards may also only want to go to high end establishments, however, she’ll offer to chip in and will always be gracious and appreciative.
And a high value woman might also appreciate the finer restaurants but will either insist on chipping in, offer to pay or make it up to you in some other meaningful way, perhaps by paying for the movie/exhibit or making you dinner etc.
Again, low maintenance women appreciate anywhere!
High maintenance women freak out when things don’t go as planned and tend to blame you or anyone else even if the situation couldn’t be avoided.
High standards women expect a reasonable effort to commit to scheduled plans but can be flexible when life unexpectedly happens.
And high value women expect you to make an effort but are understanding when things go sideways.
Low maintenance ladies just roll with the punches.
High maintenance women can expect to have flashy, designer brands they can’t afford but that you pay for. Selfish, entitled.
And while a high standards woman may also appreciate designer brands, she can afford to pay for them herself and does so or at least reciprocates buying similarly worthy gifts for you.
A high value woman can appreciate quality, whether there’s a known label on it or not, and buys her own stuff.
Low maintenance asks for nada.
You guessed it, high maintenance women want the nicest house in town but can’t afford it, won’t work toward it so you get to pay for it.
And yep, a high standards woman may want the same thing but she’ll work her butt along side you to get it.
A high value woman will work for it herself but appreciate if you contribute to her goal—if it’s something only she really wants.
Low maintenance gals will live anywhere.
Gold diggers are the best example of high maintenance women when it comes to how much money they want a man to have. They’ve got nothing but their vah-jay-jay to offer.
High standard women may want a man with money but it’s because they also have money and don’t want to pick up the slack.
A high value woman may have her own money or maybe more than her man, but she always makes him feel like the lead provider and King of their castle.
Low maintenance? You guessed it, they don’t really care.
A high maintenance woman will want a man who looks good because she’s shallow, even if she’s lacking in any/all of these areas.
On the other hand, a woman with high standards will want a man with any of these traits because she offers the same standard.
A high value woman may value these traits, can offer them herself but she’ll also work out with you, cook healthy meals and never take these traits for granted.
Low maintenance… yeah, you already know.
A high maintenance woman will want a man to have these qualities because it impresses others.
But a high value woman wants these qualities because it stimulates her. She can offer up the same qualities.
A high value woman not only appreciates these traits and has them herself but makes sure her man knows how much she appreciates them, while also making an effort to continue to be stimulating for you.
Yep, you may have figured out that sometimes low maintenance can mean low standards, which can mean low self-esteem and that can bring a whole host of other issues, especially if you have higher standards.
The gauge of whether a woman is high maintenance vs high standards is in her attitude, generosity and reciprocity.
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Vancouver dating coach for men who love women! ❤️ (Not PC and not a feminist.)