If you’ve encountered this situation, you know how frustrating it is when your partner is always right and never wrong—or at least thinks they are!
You start doubting yourself and may even start to question your sanity.
They twist things around or just get so upset you think you’re better off to just agree with everything they say.
But that doesn’t feel good and only ends up making them more of an I’m-right monster.
There are generally three reasons your partner is always right and never wrong.
So what can you do?
Let’s explore… this video!
The bottom-line is if your partner is always right and never wrong, they are either a narcissist and/or painfully insecure and/or not the right person for you.
If she is a narcissist there’s nothing you can do to change that.
But you might be able to convince her to change her behaviour if you can convince her there’s something in it for her.
Narcissists are selfish and only motivated by what’s in it for them.
Insecure, non-narcissists are motivated by what makes them feel safe—or more precisely, by avoiding what makes them feel unsafe.
If she isn’t a narcissist but is really insecure, whatever trauma happened to her caused her to cling to her rightness.
To someone who is very insecure, being wrong shines a light on the worthlessness they feel.
Being wrong amplifies their feelings of inadequacy and can trigger fear of judgment, rejection and/or abandonment.
It’d be ideal for us to filter through all the emotionally damaged prospects and only end up with a perfectly emotionally balanced partner, but that doesn’t happen often because we’re all a little damaged.
And we tend to be attracted to what’s familiar, not necessarily what’s healthy.
Remember, no matter how ideal your relationship is, 69% of all disagreements are never resolved.
Probably because of reason #3, which we’ll get to momentarily.
So, first determine if this argument needs to be resolved or if it’s just your ego that needs to be right.
If the issue affects a fundamental value or belief system, it needs to be resolved.
If not, you might want to let it go.
But not always! More on that in a minute.
If you wait until you’re 100% emotionally intelligent and have worked through your own baggage, you’ll be living your life alone a long time.
For some, that’s preferable. And that’s okay.
But if you don’t want to be single until you’re in a Zen monk-like state, then you need to accept relationships offer the most opportunity for personal growth!
Finally, you could be doing everything right and you still can’t find common ground.
If your beliefs and values simply don’t match, you may not be right for each other.
If you know your deal breakers and deal makers before entering a relationship you can filter out the ones who really are not compatible.
It’s much more difficult to change course once you’re committed.
It’s like throwing good money after bad. Once you’re invested you want it to work out, even if you know it’s a bum deal.
If you’ve had one or more relationships that have’t worked out, you probably don’t know where your blind spots are.
So, if you want to know what those are, you need my WakeUP2Luv program.
It helps you figure that out so you don’t have to go through another nasty breakup or get your heart trampled.
But if you haven’t taken my program and you’re already in a relationship with a partner who’s always right and never wrong, then you’ve got to pick your battles.
If something is important, you have to be able to say, “You may be right but this is important enough to me it’s going to be my way this time.”
There will be fall out whether or let her be right all the time or stand up for yourself.
If you allow her to be right all the time because it’s not worth the hassle, it will come back to bite you.
She’ll lose respect for you and push more, possibly just to see if you have a backbone.
If you are right for each other and she’s not a narcissist or super insecure but simply in the bad habit of treating you poorly because you’ve allowed it, it’s going to take some work to re-train her.
You may even need to talk to a professional coach or counsellor to help you through it.
Don’t beat yourself up, none of us were taught how to “do relationships!”
If you have a relationship situation you’re struggling with, follow this link to learn more about personal coaching.
And if you’re single, I highly encourage you to get my WakeUP2Luv program.
It is a lot of work, but it’ll save you so much heartache in your next relationship.
My heart goes out to you.
Hang in there. Not from a rafter! 😉
If you have a question, please leave a SHORT comment below the video over on YouTube and I will do my best to answer it there where others can benefit.
Until I can clone myself, there’s simply not enough hours in the day for me to read all the emails I receive, never mind reply to everyone.
Except, as promised, for WakeUP2Luv participants. (Restrictions apply.)
Thank you for understanding! 🥰 xo AJ
Vancouver dating coach for men who love women! ❤️ (Not PC and not a feminist.)