Why Women Love Bad Boys Over Nice Guys | What Do Women REALLY Want?
Why do women love bad boys over good men and all the nice guys available?
What do women really want?
This is a topic that’s been debated for years.
Let’s explore the 5 interesting insights Jeffrey, a typical nice guy, learned from Jessica, a truly nice girl he’s had a crush on forever…
… about why nice girls go for bad boys and the 5 things Jeffrey did to overcome these obstacles and get his dream girl…
… and how you can, too!
Why Women Love Bad Boys
Jessica is in her thirties and has just gone through a nasty breakup with her latest boyfriend.
She feels like she’s wasted her time on yet another relationship with a bad boy who was exciting to be with but was always canceling plans to hang out with his friends and never making her a priority.
Jessica is constantly drawn to bad boys that seem to come and go from her life. She can’t help but wonder why it’s so hard for her to settle down with a nice guy like Jeffrey, who’s always there when she needs him.
One night, Jeffrey asks Jessica why she’s attracted to the wrong type of guy instead of him.
Jessica thought about it for a while before responding with these five reasons why she has trouble saying yes to him or other good men…
First, Jessica feels like bad boys are more unpredictable than nice guys because they aren’t afraid of taking risks or challenging conventions.
This kind of spontaneity appeals to her even though she realizes she isn’t always that adventurous herself.
Having someone take the lead makes her feel more adventurous.
Second, bad boys often epitomize confidence and strength that are attractive to Jessica’s independent nature.
If you’re wondering why women love bad boys, well…
…women are drawn to confidence and strength, both inner and outer because it makes us feel safe.
Third, it seems like bad boys usually have a more active social life than the average nice guy and are filled with new experiences and endless possibilities for adventure.
Women need to feel stimulated, mentally, emotionally, and physically.
And it takes the pressure off Jessica to be his whole social life and entertainment.
Fourth, bad boys are often unencumbered by traditional rules and expectations which gives them an air of mystery and makes them intriguing.
One of the main reasons why women love bad boys is because they seem like natural leaders.
Jeffrey’s seemingly mundane opinions always following the crowd don’t inspire Jessica.
Finally, it came down to the fact Jessica really likes being challenged intellectually—which in her experience bad boys could provide better than most nice guys out there.
“They can banter. Sometimes a girl needs to be challenged!”
Although these reasons pose a challenge for Jeffrey he decides there are things he can do without compromising his integrity or becoming someone he isn’t.
He realizes the reasons women love bad boys aren’t actually as crazy as he originally assumed.
It’ll require him to get out of his comfort zone for sure, but he knows he’ll never find a great girlfriend like Jessica if he doesn’t try something new.
For example, he can:
- Become more spontaneous in his daily routine by randomly taking up activities like rock climbing or skydiving on weekends.
- Start working out regularly in order to feel better and build his confidence.
- Join some clubs or take up dancing classes in order to boost his social circle.
- Look into pushing boundaries in certain areas such as trying different cuisines or traveling abroad.
- Invest more time into developing his intellect by reading more books or attending lectures on new topics outside of his comfort zone.
Jeffrey knows enough to not try to negotiate with or convince Jessica to give him a chance before proving himself so he decides to show her instead of telling her.
He starts with the more straightforward stuff like taking a different route to work to switch things up and going to the gym.
At first, Jessica is hesitant about seeing if Jeffrey can change enough for her liking but it doesn’t take long to notice Jeffrey’s new level of confidence. He seems a lot happier, too.
Not only does Jeffrey become more confident and spontaneous over time but he also starts initiating conversations about interesting topics which makes their conversations much livelier than they used to be before.
Jeffrey really starts feeling his new confidence and soon he notices he no longer feels awkward or nervous around Jessica.
In fact, he’s starting to notice her flaws and while he’s still attracted to her, he’s no longer intimated by her.
He starts bantering with her and teasing her playfully without being mean.
One day Jeffrey surprises Jessica by arranging an impromptu rock climbing session (something Jessica never expected from him in the past!)
“As friends, of course.” Wink
Ultimately, what wins Jessica over entirely is how Jeffrey manages not only to surprise but also challenge her intellectually without coming across as too intense or condescending—something most bad boys do because they lack emotional maturity.
While there are many qualities that attract women like Jessica to bad boys over nice guys—with some effort (and patience!), it’s possible for nice guys like Jeffrey to make themselves just as attractive—if not even more so!—without resorting to dubious tactics or undesirable bad boy behaviour.
Why women love bad boys over good men or nice guys actually makes sense.
- Are exciting and unpredictable.
- Have a lot of confidence. Remember: being too nice comes across as boring, creepy or manipulative.
- Are often spontaneous and don’t play it too safe. They’re fun!
- Are usually funny because they’re not afraid to offend.
- Challenge women in a way that turns them on and makes them want to change those bad boys into good men.
Ultimately, women want a good man with a bit of an edge who can make them feel cherished, protected, and stimulated.
And a great way to show her your edge is to learn how to tease her in such a way that instantly sparks attraction.
To find out how to do that, watch my video: The 3 T’s of Great Flirting! How to Tease Her.
Thanks for being here, God bless!