Even though men are rarely happy about women’s tests, they’re happier when they learn how to handle women’s tests effectively.
The good news: women testing men is here to stay!
Why is that good news??
Because if she’s testing you there’s still a chance for you. Women don’t bother testing men they have no interest in.
The other good news: when you know the formula to handling tests, they become easy (ok, easier) and sometimes even fun. For real.
Remember that learning anything worthwhile requires time, consistency and effort. That’s life.
If you don’t think there’s value in the end goal — getting an amazing girlfriend who’s your best friend — then there’s no need to put in any effort. Be single.
Let’s go into these just a snitch more…
Always assume she’s not really serious. Usually, she isn’t! (Unless, you fail da test.)
If the slightest thing sets you off, she won’t feel safe with you. She’ll see a red flag regarding your temper.
Be playful, not mean, and you’ll prove you can roll with the punches. Life is full of punches.
If you put her on a pedestal, she’ll look down on you. She mirrors your view of yourself!
All women want to feel special. It’s not weak to make her feel that way as long as you don’t lose yourself in her or the relationship!
Boundaries help you not lose yourself in the relationship. She respects this. Respect precedes attraction!
Watch the video for the “and!”
She also respects when you know your values and stand up for yourself even if she doesn’t agree with those values. I repeat: respect precedes attraction!
Watch the video for the “but!”
Just like you’re not a mind reader, neither is she. Make your needs and desires clear, but not needy.
If you think of her as a BLS when she’s acting like one, it’ll be easier to not be tempted to put her on that pedestal you keep handy. 😉
If you make it easy for her to drop it, she will (unless it really is important). But if you make it difficult, her ego will get involved and conflict will result. No nookie for you!
Always know that you can handle walking away and you’ll be ok. Women want to be desired not needed!
…Can’t handle the test. If you walk because you’re ineffective, you’ll never learn how to get a great woman.
And then you’ll just be bitter instead of better. Ouch.
It’s natural to feel frustrated when a woman tests you, but you don’t want to take that anger out on her. Remember, she needs to feel safe!
Women respect men who honour their own values and set ___. Need I repeat yet again: respect precedes attraction?
Women test men because it’s the surest way of revealing a man’s true character and she needs to know if your character will be safe for her.
So, whether you’re building a business, a better body, a bicycle or great relationships with women, learning to understand women will give you an edge and make life a heckofa lot easier!
And if you want some specific examples of how to handle women’s tests, I’ll give you 15 examples here.
p.s. Yesterday, I was super cranky. How cranky was I? Volcano eruption level cranky. I have sleep-related health issues and do not like being woken up if I actually manage to get some shut eye, but I can tolerate it if it’s necessary. It wasn’t. #redhead #Viking #Mexican #spicy #temper #ThatisAll
DISCLAIMER: Anna is not a psychiatrist—no way—or medical advisor—nope—you are responsible for your actions and the results thereof. Obey the law. Such is LIFE.
Vancouver's best dating coach for men who love women! (Not PC and not a feminist.)