Whether we find our potential sweetheart on a dating site, like Match, OkCupid, eHarmony, PlentyofFish or one of the many other dating sites; through mutual connections; or by randomly clicking on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn or even Instagram—the question remains: How soon to meet in person?
Evan Marc Katz, a dating coach for women, suggests the 2-2-2 rule, but I like the 2-2-1 rule:
In my video I offer the lowdown on how soon to meet a guy, but it’s the same MO for anyone serious about finding a long-term mate, female or male.
If we want to eventually wake up next to our amore, we need to move past pen pals.
The approach is a bit different when we connect on a social media site or a professional site, such as LinkedIn. The timeline to meet in person isn’t always the sooner the better.
Rule of thumb for when to approach someone romantically on a professional site: Whenever it occurs to you.
Either way, try this opener: “You’re an intriguing man / woman. How would you feel about meeting for coffee sometime?”
(Coffee is a lame date for online dating, but safer for sites where there’s an assumption of familiarity and/or professionalism.)
No matter what the person’s relationship status, this message allows the recipient to know that there’s potential romantic interest without it seeming creepy or cheesy.
In my opinion, it’s the recipient’s responsibility to let you know if he/she is “spoken for” or interested. If asked, be honest!!
You could also go bold and simply ask her out without any pretence. Worst case: she’s flattered. Unless, she’s a cold fish, in which case: whew, dodged that one!
Here are some more ways I provide dating advice for shy guys & introverted men to get a girlfriend. Wait, not just a girlfriend, but your dream girl.
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