If you’ve ever dated a narcissist, you’ll recognize some of these nasty tricks women use to manipulate men.
But what if the woman you’re interested in, dating, or even married to, is really sweet, sexy and fun to be with?
She makes your favourite meal and compliments you and maybe even makes the first sexual move.
You can’t imagine not being with her!
But sometimes she does or says things that don’t feel right but you’re not exactly sure why so you keep quiet to keep the peace.
After awhile, she becomes less sweet and maybe less available sexually.
And should you let her get away with her manipulation tactics if they don’t really affect you in a tangible way?
Let’s explore the desperate tricks women use to manipulate men and why letting her get away with it is the worst thing you can do.
Short answer: Because they can.
I know, I know, it can make you want to scream. Or pummel something.
But here’s the longer part of the answer…
Women don’t want you to let them get away with manipulating you.
They just don’t consciously know they don’t want that.
If a woman can manipulate you, on the surface she gets what she wants.
But it comes at a high price and that price is her respect of you.
If y’all men accept these tricks women use to manipulate men to proliferate, women will continue pushing the envelope, losing respect and possibly moving on the next poor fellow.
Manipulation tactics are an unconscious form of a shit test.
Either way, you’ll handle these manipulation tactics the same way, which we’ll look at in a minute.
Oh, and by the way, some men can and do pull these stunts, too, so make sure you’re not the one using these unhealthy strategies!
You tell her you want to take her out for a nice dinner and suggest a nice restaurant.
But when after the dinner she says, “It wasn’t where I wanted to go but if you liked it, I’m happy.”
She’s trying to make you feel guilty when she didn’t even give you a clue she wanted to go somewhere else.
You end up feeling deflated and like you owe her something.
Stick with me and I’ll give you the strategy to handle these manipulation tactics.
The rule of thumb about sarcasm is to never say something “in jest” that’s insulting and could be taken sincerely.
Your hair is starting to thin and you’re self-conscious about it.
So, you share this vulnerability with her hoping she’ll assuage your insecurity by telling you it doesn’t matter and you’ll always be handsome to her.
Instead, she says, “You’ve never been a Brad Pitt, but you do have a head made for hats.”
Or worse, you’re somewhere with friends or co-workers and the topic comes up and she says something similar in front of others.
The silent treatment is used when you’ve done something wrong or when she hasn’t got her way.
You have to work extra hours on a project that’s due date got bumped up so you postpone plans with your girl.
She says, “Okay” but then stops replying to texts or only offers short curt messages.
When you ask her if she’s ok, she claims she’s not feeling chatty or she’s been busy, but you know she’s punishing you.
If you live with her, she may stop greeting you when you get home or avoid being in the same room with her.
The Silent Treatment is a passive-aggressive manipulation tactic designed to make you so uncomfortable you give in to her.
The silent treatment very closely resembles another of the desperate tricks women use to manipulate men…
Similarly to the silent treatment, when she suddenly stops being physically intimate with you after you’ve disagreed or she didn’t get what she wanted—that’s a manipulation tactic.
It may come with a variety of other excuses like—
—but if she doesn’t give you a timeline and a sincere, “but I really want you and will be passed this [excuse] soon” with a big smooch to boot, she’s working you over and not in a good way.
No matter how she’s feeling, but especially if it’s a negative emotion, it’s your doing.
If she’s sad, she thinks you failed to cheer her up.
Angry? Well, you obviously triggered her.
But here’s the rub…
Because she also gives you credit for when you actually have done or said something nice to her, you start believing her feelings are your responsibility.
So you try even harder to please her when she’s upset!
Hun, I gotta tell you, rewarding bad behaviour is the surest way of getting more of it.
Read that again.
You’ve got to call her out on manipulative behaviour, you just don’t want to do it in a way that’s going to trigger her even more.
If you haven’t watched my video on the 5 phrases to never say to an angry woman, check it out below.
No one likes to be wrong, but if she’s always got to be right there won’t be a healthy balance in the relationship.
Let’s say you disagree about a political position on a specific topic or she says your friend, Steve, is a player, or you don’t know how to stack the dishwasher properly.
It doesn’t matter what the issue ever is, you’re always wrong, she’s always right.
If she thinks she’s never wrong, one of two things are at play here.
As you know, women’s primary need is to feel safe.
If she’s incredibly insecure and afraid that being wrong isn’t safe, she won’t risk it.
This may or may not have anything to do with you. It may be baggage she’s had for a long time.
If it is about you, then it may be you actually don’t make her feel safe in the way you deal with conflict and disagreement with her.
But if it’s not about you then it’s another of the tricks women use to manipulate men and get you to agree with her.
The second option is your beliefs, values and/or long term goals are so misaligned you are not a good match.
Abort mission, good Sir.
If your lady has expressed three or more of these sometimes subtle tricks women use to manipulate men on a regular basis, you need to do something about it.
If you don’t, you’ll continue to feel confused and emotionally abused.
Your self-esteem will slide and you’ll start to doubt yourself in other areas of life.
And the nasty side effect is she’ll lose respect for you, too, and ramp up testing you.
Things will spiral downward from here and one day she may even leave you, used and abused.
So, you’ve got to nip her bad behaviour in the bud.
Watch my video with 15 examples on how to handle her tests so you’re prepared for the next time she tries one of these tricks women use to manipulate men.
Vancouver dating coach for men who love women! ❤️ (Not PC and not a feminist.)